Having babies very close in age, what to tell the daddy to make him feel better?

Question

Our son is going to be 7 months old and I'm pregnant again, very soon, I know. My man is very worried, shocked , scared, cause he didn't want to have babies so close in age, I understand him. I'm shocked as well, but at the same time I want to feel good and happy, cause children are a gift from heaven. If you have had back to back children then I would like to know of your experience with that. That would help my husband feel a little bit better

Answer 1

My first 2 kids were born 1 year and 6 days apart. Life happens and trust me you will enjoy having your babies close together.

Answer 2

My first two children are 21 mos apart and I am now pregnant with third...5 years later. I feel much more worried about this one feeling left out...a concern I did not have with the first two. Save every thing and recycle it to the new baby...it is much more cost effective than starting from scratch a few years later. Your kids will always have a playmate and the younger will learn a lot from its older sibling like how to use the potty. Within a couple of years you will be able to throw the kids in the car and go, instead of carrying a diaper bag, stroller etc everywhere you go for the next 6 -10 years. Yes closer together is definitely better...but I'm excited for this one too cuz I miss having a toddler

Answer 3

I have four children there are two years between the first and second and a year and a month between the second and third and a year and a month between the third and fourth as well.Children are a gift from God and every child is special.It will take some time for your man to get used to the idea of another child so soon.Just try to reassure him that everything will turn out fine.One bonus of having children so close in age is they seem to get along with each other better and have more in common because they are on the same level as opposed to children with a few years different.I hope this helps good luck.

Answer 4

Although , I haven't experienced it personnally, my best friend had 2 kids 10 months apart. One in December and a second the following October.

She didn't really have time to get over the experience of giving birth to the first one when she was going through it again.

It was a challenge but she says she was quite happy with the way things turned out. The kids go things together as if they were twins, discovering things together.

Your son will be close to 15 mths by then, so it shouldn't be too difficult to cope, because he should be starting the "fun" stage. Be able to "help" you with his brother or sister. Be a big brother.

Good Luck

Answer 5

I wish I had my children closer together, but I did the opposite, and It is really hard. The oldest does not want to be bothered by the little one. Closer in age makes them closer when they get older. My brother and I are close in age and we were inseperable. Im 31 he's 33 and we are best friends. So in the long run its better. I have a sister who is 5 yrs younger and we still have a questionable relationship. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I have 6 boys.The first 2 are 13 months apart.The 3rd one is 1 1/2 years younger then the second one.The 4th and 5th is 12 months apart.The last one is only 2 years and 3 months old.Im not trying to sound harsh but those who dont want babies at a certain time should do something to prevent from concieving.

Answer 7

My two older children are 17 months apart...It was rough at first having a baby and bringing another one home, but once your settled into your schedule it works out...They were a year apart in school so I have them both in college at the same time lol very expensive..but thats ok... they are like best friends now and I wouldnt have it any other way...It really is great to have somone close to your age to grow up with and share things with...Tell your hubby its not that bad and once he see's the new baby all his worries will disappear.....Good Luck~

Answer 8

Remind him that your children will grow up together, and always have someone as a playmate, and you probably won't hear "I don't have anybody to play with" much at all! They'll almost certainly grow up to be very close emotionally, and be far supportive of each other as adults, than they would have been if they had been further apart. I've seen lots of families with children that are really close together, and they ALWAYS seem to get along well. Besides... when one is grown, the other one will almost be as well, and you will have the "nest" back to yourselves again in very short order!

Answer 9

I am almost 31 weeks along with #2, and my daughter will be 18 months when the baby is born. Yes, it can be tough to have them so close, but you have everything a baby needs right in your house now! You won't need to go buy all the big baby stuff again. And because they will be so close in age, they will be able to share a lot of toys and interests. I am looking forward to having my kids close in age :)

Answer 10

I even have 4 little ones my 1st became into born December 9 2001, my 2d became into July 22 2003, my third became into July 1st 2004 and my 4th became into October 7 2005 and that i'm due back August 10 2007 my journey became into super. With an excellent sort of it may get somewhat annoying yet with a 7mo and one on the way you're able to do high-quality. that's going to be an incredible journey/exhilaration for you. good success