i am a 25 year old mother of a two year with a long term boyfriend.... however i have just realised i have a crush on my boss. She is 38, no kids and dating a 27 year old lad. Not sure if she likes women. I did not think i did until i started to get feels for her and having sexual fantasys about us together!
what she i do... i think she finds me attractive but not in s exy way. should i ask her or tell her my feelings.
Still wanna stay with my man but would like to explore these feels further!
2007-02-24 12:29:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Does this mean i am bisexual
2007-02-24 12:41:55 · update #1
It doesn't matter if she's male or female, cheating on your boyfriend would be wrong.
2007-02-24 12:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
"Should I ask her or tell her my feelings..."
In short - NO!
She's your boss and it could make things REALLY rather awkward at work, don't you think? Then there's the question of your long term boyfriend: cheating with a woman IS still cheating.
I honestly don't know what it means about your sexuality, and were you and your boyfriend to split up, it might be something you want to explore - or if your boyfriend is agreeable, you could explore it together! I'm sure most blokes would be fairly open to helping their girlfriends explore their bisexual side!!
But in terms of your boss - I REALLY would leave well alone. It's nice to have a work crush, it makes the day go a bit quicker. Keep a little perspective, take it for what it is and enjoy it - but don't act on it or you might regret it.
2007-02-26 09:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by tabasc_oh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes fantasy should stay as just that. You don't know if your boss is bisexual or not & you both have other partners. I think you'd be risking too much here. I have had many sexual fantasies about women but unless the feeling is very clearly mutual & I am single, then it stays as a fantasy. Having bisexual feelings doesn't give you permission to cheat on your male partner, unless of course you have an open relationship & he knows about it. I know how strong these feelings can be but unless the situation changes you shouldn't act on this. You could end up losing your job & your partner.
2007-02-28 08:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i think you are possibly bisexual. I think given the opportunity you should go ahead and find out one way or another. You should get it out of your system. Maybe your boss is waiting for you to make the first move. At least it would let you know if it is just a fantasy or if it is something real.
2007-02-25 15:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd need to find another job first before asking her anything. It's probably just the idea of dating a woman that gives you this feeling, not necessarily your boss. So yeah, I'd suggest you to look somewhere else to explore these feelings instead if you still want to see what it's like.
2007-02-25 02:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by BambiQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors that would make fulfilling your desires a bad idea. First, she's your boss. Second you don't know her sexuality. Third you're both in relationships. Don't bother with it and keep the fantasies just fantasies. Then again you never know unless you try.
2007-02-25 14:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a long term relationship with your bf & just have a crush on your boss are you willing to lose your partner for a 'crush' as you don't sound as if you think you're gay! as for your other question-if your scared of having sex with her & don't know if you'll like it then leave well alone-you'll probably regret it!!
2007-02-25 12:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Boss? No! I wouldn't unless you have another job to go to.
Are You Bi? No because you haven't even tried it. You are totaly normal. Just curious! Even if you tried it doesn't make you bi. Its like smoking, if you tried it a few times but you choose not to smoke, are you a smoker? You will know if you are bi when you choose to be bi.
2007-02-28 07:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by vacationman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u r bisexual but no point of tellin her about ur feelings while u cant be with her,u either be with her or ur boyfriend
good luck
2007-02-25 18:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well two things might happen if you tell her
One: is that you will get the sack
Two: is you'll get her in the sack
Haha lol
2007-02-26 10:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Elaine R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree w/ gandamack1 but i also agree that it is wrong 2 cheat....... so u just have 2 control ur self if u do aske her out!
or tell ur man and see if he is ok w/ it
2007-02-24 20:41:29 · answer #11 · answered by hopeless_romantic_♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋