2007-02-24 12:24:54 · 13 answers · asked by miss m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have talked more than once in the last 3 weeks. no he was not drunk and frankly my marriage could be better. But, I would not leave my husband for my ex. Also, I must admit I do enjoy talking to him.
2007-02-24 12:47:35 · update #1
Because something has awakened the feelings he had with you, could be as simple as a song on the radio or a perfume, this coupled with a feeling of not being content at this moment in time will take him back to the good times you had. It will pass, but you need to ignore it, or just be very polite, 'nice to hear from you' then talk about how great married life is. But I feel a subtext in your question, your not sure if you should revive a relationship with this person, perhaps revist old feelings you had with him. Think why you two split, if you dont know because he dumped you, then he could do it again when bored.
Remind yourself why your married, when your hubbys asleep watch him, its the best time to see if you love or loath someone. You will know what to do, i promise.
2007-02-24 12:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Question 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he drinking? He could be doing what we call a "drunk dial". Calling up someone you had a relationship with, because you are feeling lonely or perhaps wish things had turned out differently, when you are under the influence. Very likely to lead to feelings of great regret on the part of the caller the next day!
2007-02-24 12:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bakem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take it as a real compliment that after all this time he has remembered you and maybe he feels guilty over past actions.I would not pursue the matter any further and if he calls again just be polite and tell him you are happily married and do not wish for any further contact......
2007-02-24 12:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably in a poor relationship or just got out of one, and is looking for a "sure thing" [you] to stroke his deflated ego until he has the courage to take the risk, put in the time, and exert the effort to seek out a meaningful relationship. Don't let him ruin what you and your husband have taken time to build by falling into his selfish trap. He's not really interested in you, just interested in how you can make him feel.
2007-02-24 12:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Elle E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are slow to realize what they had. Take it as a compliment, but don't let him disrupt your current marriage. Good marriages are with people who want to work it out through the rough times.
2007-02-24 12:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kristel W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you then giving this any energy? Don't think twice about it or else you will become too engulfed in this valueless conversation and find yourself and your marriage in trouble. Tell them, that's the past and you would hope they have a great life and see ya!!!!!
2007-02-24 12:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would worry about that. Ask him to stop calling because you are re-married, and if he doesn't, discuss with your husband the possibility of getting a restraining order.
2007-02-24 12:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've moved on and don't dwell in the past, your future with your husband is what's important to you. Wish him well as he jouney's down memory lane alone and stop all contact with him.
2007-02-24 12:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was drunk? Anyway, I'd cut THAT call off quickly.
2007-02-24 12:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lonely. It probably has nothing to do with you. There was a reason you left him (or he left you) he wasn't very considerate.
2007-02-24 12:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋