umm how do i talk to someone?

Question

ya i no pathetic question but seriously. iv been shy all my life and i really never picked up on how to talk to someone. wen i try my mind just goes BLANK and i cant ever think of anythin to say!. so wat do i do?

really my life sux i need to talk to people..
please serious answers.

Answer 1

Hello. what I have found helpful is going to places that interest me, by myself. I go to local activities where I have to talk to 7 different people before I can leave. I meet some nice people and get an experience other than work or home. The more things you learn, the easier it will be to talk to other people.

Answer 2

I don't know you, so I will give several answers, and I hope that one or more will be helpful. You see, it all depends on just why you are shy.

(1) If you are not a verbal person, try drawing a cute picture for the person, to say with feelings what you cannot put into words.

(2) Find out what the person likes, learn about it, and wait until a current event happens. Then, say, "Hay Joe, what do you think of _________(talk about the current event just a little)? Then, the other person will talk, and you can follow his or her lead to continue.

(3) Think of how the other person will perceive what you say. You could begin by talking about the weather- remarking on how cold are hot you think it is. For example, if someone is wearing light clothing and it is cold outside and windy, you might ask,
"Aren't you cold?" Asking a question is better than making a statement, because that way, you are not assuming anything by your statement, and you give the other person a chance to talk.

(4) A really great way to get top know someone better is to ask how they are after you know they have recently been ill. When they say "fine" (if they do), sttate that you know they have been ill, and ask how it has been for them. Be interested. People love a good listening ear, because it is rare to find one.

(5) Join a religious organization, and get involved in related activities/ discussion groups. I attend Bible studies at my church, and have made many friends that way. Once people get to know you and you get to know them, you will not be so shy.

(6) If you play a musical instrument, or sing, check your town's listing for volunteer musical groups (instrumental or town choirs). There are many such groups, and it is a chance to meet people.

(7) If you play Chess, see if your town has a local Chess Club. Bridge is also popular, but you may need to wait until you get a partner for that.

(8) Learn to forgive yourself for all the errors you make! Every time, start fresh!

(9) Volunteer to help the disabled or elderly. Then, take someone you help out to a special event who never gets out! This will do two things for you: It will give you someone to talk to while making the other person feel good too, and it will let you be seen with other people. People like to be your f riend if they know that you care about others and can be with others.

(10) Socialize in very small groups. That way, you can learn from watching other people, while being included.

(11) In the social world, familiarity is an excellent thing. If all you can say is "Hi, Mary, how are you doing?", after a few times, Mary will be glad that you recognize her, and will be friendly. Ask her how ____________ (some special event in her life) was. Then, she will feel even more recognized.

Be encouraged. It can be done. If these tips don't help, a counselor or life coach can be a great help, too.