My exboyfriend is a bad person and I want to terminate his rights for my son.?

Question

By the time I was 3 months pregnant with my son, my boyfriend was putting me down, yelling, screaming, making me his house maid etc. I had been bleeding lightly and one day after a fight I had a lot of blood and had to go to the ER to make sure I wasn't miscarrying my son. It was suggested that I leave my boyfriend. So I did. 2 months later I started dating a friend and exboyfriend I'd known for a few years. Him and I have been happily together since then. He was there for my son's birth and claims him as his own. My son calls him daddy and they adore eachother. His father is trying to get visitation of him which at first I did allow him to see his son. But he's been acting irresponsible again and cusses me when I give him pointers. He has many criminal charges involving drugs, DUI's, etc. Its a long list. We already established paternity and child support but I fear for my son when he goes for visitation. Is there anyway that I can terminate or severly limit his rights?

Answer 1

I think if he is the legal father he has rights. Now, not to say to the point of if he abuses you now. The child is still his and this is something you need to understand. if he chooses to see his son what right do you have to try and take that away. Does he abuse him? If not what gives you have no right to try and keep him from his son. As long as the child is taken care of while in the father's care you have no case. It sounds as if you are trying to get back at the ex, which as adults we shouldn't do. If both are acting like parents we should do what is best for our kids no matter how much we dislike or hate the other.

Answer 2

You can request supervised visitation, however, u will have to prove your reasoning behind it.
I am in the same situation. But still pregnant. My ex bf cusses and calls me a whore. He is trying to drive me to asking him to terminate his rights by doing this. i am seriously considering it. But, financially, my child will not have the life i would like to give him. I too am torn. He is an alcoholic and verbally abusive.
I have spoken with a lawyer, and supervised visits are what i am going for. Simply to give him a chance to be a daddy because i know he has it in him.
It will cost u, but i would definately at least get supervised visits, perhaps with a family member or through social services until he can be assessed. This is the best hope for the future of your son.
If the man u r with wants to adopt him, then ask him to terminate his rights. If the financial aspect of it isnt an issue, as it is with me, then i would in a heartbeat.
I wish u all the luck.

Answer 3

LISTEN CLOSELY, CHILDREN NEED, WANT, AND DESERVE TO BE LOVED BY BOTH PARENTS. What your doing is the most cruel thing a person can do to another human being. You need to be tazered. You son will grow to hate you someday. Is that your goal. To raise your son to get to a point of resentment towards his mother because her selfishness kept him from his dad. I am glad that you boyfriend is good to him, but he will NEVER love him the way his Dad will. He can tell you all he wants he loves him as his own, but just you watch, if the two of you have a child, your son is going to see a HUGE difference in the way he treats his REAL son, and him.

Answer 4

Start by obtaining a restraining order. Next GET A LAWYER !! Petition the court for an emergency hearing. Prove that he is irresponsible and is a danger to your son. If all this is proven successfully, his visitation will be limited and supervised by a 3rd party if not terminated.

Answer 5

get supervised visits. He is always going to be his dad regardless of what happens. Sounds like he was terrible to you. But is he a good father? To often anger and revenge gets intertwined with the children. Work out the issues between you so your child dont have to suffer.

Answer 6

Who is on the birth certificate?

And, you need to speak to a court advocate for this one---the problem is, if you 've established that he's the father, he has rights too (unfortunately!)....To terminate parental rights, it USUALLY takes HIS signature as well, agreeing to it.
You might be able to get away with it IF....1. he's in jail 2. has current charges against him (drugs...what a loser!) 3. or the judge sees his record and agrees with you.

And then I suggest you leave town.

Answer 7

You can probably have his rights terminated because of all the things he has done with the dui and stuff, but if not start making him have supervised visitation. You also need to let him know it is not ok to talk to you like that.

Answer 8

The visitations should be monitored. Or he should not get to visit at all (if you are afraid of him hurting, cussing, or yelling at the boy child).

Talk to a lawyer SOON and ask advice from a lawyer and get the papers drawn up (and ask ex bf to SIGN).

I bet that you can easily get him to give up his rights.

But remember when he gives up his rights, you will no longer get any child support, cause that will no longer be his son.

Take Care

Answer 9

You can get a restraining order, I am pretty sure. And considering his record, it won't be a problem. But most states will not allow you to strip of person of their parental rights unless there is someone else there who is willing to take the absent parent's place. Is the BF your son calls daddy willing to take the full responsibility?

Answer 10

You need to request a new hearing to discuss parental rights and visitations. You can't keep someone from seeing their child, but if you can PROVE that the child is in danger when he is alone with his dad, maybe supervised visitation can be implemented.