Been with my man for 9 years, we have a child together. I also have a son myself. I am 31 and he is 49. He has been married before and burnt bad! We are happy-he does everthing for me and my family. He provides and works and gives me anything I want. I don't understand why he wont ask me to marry him. He bought me a beautiful platnium diamond ring for christmas 2 years ago. It was wrapped as a present. He didnt propose though. I just though some men dont. Im not sure what to do. Im happy but I want to be married. Is it ok to ask? Does It look desperate? Please offer me some advice. I have a similar posting like this but I didnt get to post all the details in it. What should I do???
2007-02-24 12:12:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's the deal: He is probably scarred from the really bad marriage. But you should ask him directly. With a family and support already in the fold, only love is in question.
2007-02-24 12:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't sound to desperate if u ask him about marriage. C'mon u have the right to ask him, hello u have a son with him. maybe he's cheating on u w/ another women. I think u should hire a detective to follow him for a day and if nothing happens ask him. That son deserves to have their parents married if their both happy. Dn't be wasting time on a guy who won't give u his last name.
2007-02-24 12:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by 18forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years quite a while to be together.And a child. You should be comfortable enough around eachother to tell him whats on your mind. I know I have been married 9 years and we been through so much by now,there is nothing we cant discuss or be scared to talk about.
Just tell him how you feel, 9 years..Im sure he wont get scared off, its not like you two just been dating for sort time.
2007-02-24 12:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Navulam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him it's important to you.
You've been together 9 years, are obviously committed to each other and happy-perhaps he doesn't realise that you want to get married. Maybe he thought that when he gave you the ring you'd mention it, even jokingly, if you had marriage on your mind-and you'd go from there.
You'll probably find that he's happy, assumes(rightly) that you're happy and doesn't see the need to 'rock the boat' by mentioning marriage-especially if his last one failed.
2007-02-25 02:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about how you feel as you have been together for some time he will know you get him to commit to you as you are not his past you have proved that after all this time and if he loves you he will be glad to marry you
2007-02-24 12:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it would be desperate of you he is probably scared after the first time round just ask him good luck to you
2007-02-25 00:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by sha23z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him- what's the worst that can happen? He says no and things stay the same. What have you lost?
Good luck!
2007-02-24 12:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, don't ask me. I've been with someone for over forty-seven years, and we haven't mentioned marriage yet.
2007-02-24 14:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋