My husband says it's my responsibility for making sure he gets up every day. I wake him up, he looks at me, then looks at the clock and then says, "Give me a few more minutes." So I give him five more minutes and then shake him and tell him to get up and he puts a pillow on his head and tells me to go away. So I give him a few more minutes and then pull the covers off of him and he gets mad and puts them back over himself. Then he says I'm not doing my job and it's my responsibility to make sure he is up and functioning because it's so hard for him to do it.
Am I nuts? Shouldn't a mature adult be responsible for his own choice to sleep or get up? He makes me feel bad when I just let him sleep rather than go through this whole routine. I tell him he should at least cooperate with me when I'm trying to wake him up and get him out of the bed, but he says, "It's not my responsibility. I trust YOU to wake me up and get me out of the bed, but you let me down."
What do you think?
2007-02-24 12:12:12 · 7 answers · asked by Pippa A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's pushing your buttons and knows which ones too. He's shifting the blame to you and you are allowing it to happen. Just tell him that since he never gets up when you wake him and you are obvious not able to do your job, before you get fired you have decided to quit and from now on you won't be even attempting to wake him, you aren't accepting any responsibility if he oversleeps and is late. You tried to help but since he obvious doesn't appreciate your efforts and you surely get no satisfaction from the job, he's going to have to do it himself. It's time for hubby to grow up and to stop blaming someone else for his own failings. Don't feel guilty either. You get yourself up and out on time, you tried to help. Time for him to grow up and take control of his own time.
2007-02-24 13:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him an alarm clock. Unless your husband is under the age of 7 he should be getting himself up. Tell him that his mother no longer lives with him and that he needs to be a big boy now. Show him how to work the alarm clock if needed. If he does not want this then get him some pj's with feet and put him to bed at a decent hour and if he does not get up when told to I am sure that a glass of cold water would do the trick. Good luck
2007-02-24 20:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a big boy set the alarm clock and tell him to grow up.
2007-02-24 20:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy him an alarm clock and dont let him boss you around.
2007-02-24 20:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably he needs a little more spice for being made to get up. Why not try to be romantic at that time once?
2007-02-24 20:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it's not your responsibility....wake him up once and that's it! my mom used to keep a jar of marbles in the freezer, and when my brother wouldn't get up, she would dump them under the covers. that got him up! lol cuz they would roll to wherever he moved =)
2007-02-24 20:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he's a lazy sod
2007-02-24 20:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by defragmentedbrain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋