im 14 and i live with my mom and my step dad. about a month ago my step dad raped me and now im pregnant. i don't know what to do. i don't think my mom will believe me
2007-02-24 12:09:06 · 22 answers · asked by kiki l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
go to the police, call Child protecive services, go to the hospital and get an abortion.
2007-02-24 19:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a place filled with trained people who deal with problems like this - it's a place you go to every day: your school. They have a guidance office. You do one thing: make an appointment. Tell them that the matter is confidential, you need time to discuss it (in other words, don't just say you want to see a guidance counselor - as if you wanted to dispute a grade in one of your classes!)
Then you at least have someone to help you deal with your mother. Guidance counselors are professionals. They see a lot in a school; you are not the first pregnant teen they will see.
I suggest this because you anticipate problems confronting your mother - that she won't believe you. There are DNA tests to settle that problem and a guidance counselor can tell you about that, too.
It will mean that you will get help. That's the most important thing. I think you may end up worrying about your mom and step dad and a guidance counselor ought to know that too. But you are the person who is the focus of this situation right now. Get help right now. Don't wait. Tell the guidance office that you CAN'T wait.
2007-02-28 11:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These situations are hard I find. I was molested when I was 4. I told my mother, but she did not believe me. I was raped when I was a teenager, and when I told my father he told me it was my fault for being in that situation. Just remember that you are about to tell your mother that the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, violated you in the most awful way. I would wait til the morning and I would call the non emergency police number and tell them what happened and let them know that you are afraid for what will happen next. They will help. Do not let this man get away with it. I did and I think about all the other girls that came to follow after me. I could have stopped him, but I am from the generation of "why bother." Please do some thing about it and may God be with you.
P.S. I'm 31, this happened 15yrs ago and it still haunts me. I really wish I did something when I had the chance. There are people that can help you.
2007-02-24 21:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by janelle b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uhh if you are serious you need to talk to the police. I know you are thinking right now that you've done something wrong to deserve this and its your fault. Please listen to this one thing I have to tell you:
You have done nothing wrong and your stepdad has done something very seriously bad to you!
There is something else going on here if you dont think your mom will believe you either. Being pregnant would be way more than enough proof to back up your claim. What has been done to you cannot be undone and made better. You are going to need some serious help and support so that this doesnt destroy your life. Please if you talk to your mom about this first, dont allow her to talk you out of getting help from anyone. You need to seek some advice from someone because you still have options right now. If you wait until the baby is born, someone is going to ask where it came from and he is going to get in trouble anyway. Its better to do it now then wait.
People that can help you:
Police
School Teachers
School Counselor
Doctor or Nurse
Priest or Pastor
You need to talk to one of those people. Please dont just talk only to your mom. Though she should still know. You need help ASAP.
2007-02-24 20:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone RIGHT AWAY! Call a rape crisis hotline, the police, the school nurse, an adult you can trust. Please do so. If you fear that your step dad will do something to you and/your mother you need to tell the police that way you both will be safe. Do not keep this pregnancy a secret any longer. For your safety it is very important to speak up now.
2007-02-24 20:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
TELL YOUR MOM! If she doesn't believe you (coz some women are crazy! and head over heels inlove with their partners, no matter how sick in the head they are) then tell a relative or a close friend. If your immediate family doesn't help you, others will. Your stepdad needs to be imprisoned for child abuse. In the country where I'm from, rapists are jailed and given a death sentence. What happened to you is called Statutory rape, coz you are a minor and just a child! I pray that justice be given and sexual perverts/maniacs be punished.
2007-02-24 20:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lei 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your mother. That sucker has to go to jail.
If your mom doesn't believe you she's got no heart. A good
mother always listens to their kids and would never believe
a man over their child. If she doesn't believe you or you are
afraid to tell her you have to go to the police. Seek counseling
at your school. I understand you are very young and that you
were raped, but please don't have an abortion. It's not the baby's
fault. It is not your fault either, but there is help out there and
there are women who can't have babies and are willing to
love a child like yours. Think about it. If you want to talk to
someone E-mail me at my mom's tatiliz974@yahoo.com.
2007-02-24 20:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bubblez ♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police right now. You need to go to the hospital and get checked out. I know this is scary but just go and call the police. You will have alot of support from all kinds of people. I think your mom will believe you. I am a mom and if my daughter told me that happened to her i would believe her. mothers will believe their children, they maybe shocked, and hurt to see somebody hurt their baby girl but she will believe you. please please go and call the police right now, you have done nothing wrong you are a victim. I promise everything will be alright
2007-02-24 20:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by redenbargers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your Mom will believe you - tell her. If she doesn't believe you, tell your teacher or counselor at school. This man is dangerous to you, your Mom and every girl and woman in your town. I know it's difficult, but you can do this! I'm praying for you sweetie.
2007-02-24 21:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Nora P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents used to do foster care and this happened to a girl that we had. Her mom didnt believe her. You NEED to tell your mother. EVEN if you think she wont believe you. You have to TRY okay, you never know she may throw him out on his ***! But you have to tell someone, go to your school councilor and talk to them maybe they can talk to your mom with you if you are scared to do it alone. But you need to get help sweetie!
2007-02-24 22:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW go to the police
and tell your mom she should believe you
i hope the best for you
god bless
good luck
2007-02-24 20:20:26 · answer #11 · answered by Danielle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋