the guy i was dating made two "killing" gestures toward me and once joked about killing me.. all done in the same day. he was in "good " mood and joking..
2007-02-24 12:03:30 · 18 answers · asked by CITY 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
oh my god...he is from israel and he was in the war only six months ago there. i thought it was a harmless joke since he seemed to be in good mood hen e joked about it.
2007-02-24 12:17:50 · update #1
yes..PTSD might be one reason that he might be acting this way. he is a veteran, just back from war.
2007-02-26 12:17:19 · update #2
I would agree with the other response given. This 'gentleman' or shall we just say guy sounds as though he may have major issues that could put your safety in jeopardy. The gestures may have appeared to be jokingly and perhaps it was, however, one cannot take the chance and risk his or her personal safety and life. Perhaps you can gently break it off with him. Who knows what his 'dark side' is like and of course, one wouldn't want to find that out :) It would most likely be in your best interest Not to bring up his 'killing' gestures in case he has a nutty side, know what I mean. I suppose that you should go with your 'inner voice' as it sounds as though it's prompting you to ask this question for others' opinions. Please use good judgement and trust your intuition.
2007-02-24 12:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by jannsody 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joking or not, if this kind of talk makes you uncomfortable in any way you should confront him about it. Let him know that you don't appreciate killing jokes that involve you or anybody else for that matter. If he was involved in the war, than killing should not be taken so lightly with him. It shouldn't be a joking matter. But it is not right to make such gestures esp if you are uncomfortable with them or uneasy when he jokes about it. Share your thoughts about it and let him know you want the jokes to stop. If he doesn't, than you need to have a more serious talk. Tell him how it makes you feel when he talks like that. And in the end, if it doesn't stop, well sweety, hes got probs and he should figure them out on his own and not bring you down with it.
2007-03-04 18:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by tekno_rockstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I speak from experience. Get Him Help NOW. He needs an Intervention if he will not voluntarily check himself into the VA for psychiatric evaluation & treatment. Get in touch with his family & friends and ask them to help, - and contract the VA, VFW, DAV, - any body you can think of who will help in the intervention. And we aren't talking some 30 day Haldal & group Chat session at a retreat either, - this young man has some serious issues to work through with a professional psychiatrist in a secure facility.
if you just try to cut him off from seeing you he could go ballistic, and make good on his promise to you, If you run away he is just as likely to take his agression out on your family and friends, and then come after you.
His behaviour is a cry for help, So help him.
2007-03-04 15:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this guy a veteran. Many people undergo PTSD, post traumatic stress. If you want a healthy relationship, don't let it continue like that. Call him on it and get some counselling for him. It may be your life someday or someone who is close to you. Make sure he doesn't influence kids that way. They could be damaged for life.
2007-02-24 20:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say move away and fast. Especially if this has just recently surfaced and you have only been dating a short while. If you have been together a long time and this is completely not like him then ask him whats up. Its really not a normal when it is a common theme.
2007-02-24 20:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by The Angry Stick Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No joke! Leave the guy. Could you imagine a circumstance where one day he is serious about doing that? Like getting drunk? Then you couldn't blame it on, he's just drunk, because you'd be dead..
2007-02-24 20:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Uncle Remus 54 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ptsd takes a while to take over,i know ive had it and still suffer.this man sounds a bit twisted to me,slowly ease yourself away from him and start over.
2007-03-04 05:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by fatdadslim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend says "I'm goin to keeyl yu!" pretty much everyda. He jokes. Are you taking what he's saying seriously?
2007-02-24 20:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's the sort of thing I'd find funny. It would be enough for me to stop all communications with him.
2007-02-24 20:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop him now. It is not normal to do that. If you choose to stay with him, at least, leave when he hits you the first time.
2007-02-24 20:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋