a guy was deeply inlove with me thru the net.we communicate a lot.but iam married and no divorce in my country.My husband knew a lot about this relationship..of course he was so mad at first.but what can i do?I fall out of love with my hubby and was just sacrificing a lot for our no good relationship.lately my husband accepted my life's decision.
and now here's this guy who would offer me so much love and happiness in life...i can go crazy giving up my marriage just for this guy which i fell in love too.right now he is sick(cancer) and getting back his health so we can meet soon.and get married.
any comment?
2007-02-24 11:50:25 · 27 answers · asked by xxxx66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry you are so confused but you could be making a HUGE MISTAKE!! Have you ever met this other man from the net face to face before?? Not everyone on the net is truthful and if you have never met him before or know what he is like in person, you may be in for a terrible let down.
Do you think it is possible that you and your husband just have not spent enough time together latly? Is there a way you could put your marriage back together again?? Think about everything before you make any final decisions.
Maybe you and your husband could work on putting your marriage back together. Look at your problems, and see if you can find solutions to be happier. Less time on the computer and more time with one another. good luck
2007-02-24 12:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever met this guy in person? Doesn't sound like it.
Are you sure that he is sick? How do you know he is telling you the truth or if it's just a ploy?
To be free you don't have to run to another guy. You can also be single. Or just get separated from your husband for some time, to think things over.
Why jump from one bad situation into another where you'll just be a nurse to someone you don't know at all? Or who knows what other "plans" this guy has for you.
Plus, if you have any children with your husband - what about them?
And what about immigration issues? You say that there's no divorce in your country - will your virtual lover sponsor you to get a visa for whatever country he lives in? Are you planning to become a bigamist?
And what if it doesn't work out? Will he take your passport and money and sell you into prostitution?
BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!
Be careful.
2007-02-24 12:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It amazes me how people can actually say they met this
person on the internet and fell in love. This just proves to
me the immaturity of many as no-one can honestly say
from their heart and in stone that they are in love.They
may think they are in love but it is a false pretence. Show
me the statistics of the people thru the internet that said
they have fallen in love over the net, got married and have
lived with that person for years and are still having a
happy marriage. If you can show me the statistics and I
see that the majority of internet lovers are long lasting as
much as real life relationship, I will personally come on
line and apoligize.
2007-02-24 14:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicating online is alot different than actually meeting and incorporating each of your lives into one. If your marriage is over, you need to deal with that first...before adding someone else to the mix. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and create alot of drama and not fair to anyone involved. if it is truly over, then end it...and then look towards starting your life over.Just be sure that you know what you are doing and that you are doing what is right for you.You are the only one who can decide this, all the answers in the world on here are not going help. We dont have to live your life, you do. Good luck.
2007-02-24 11:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by klbsab 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what country you're from but here in america if your not happy with someone you have choices. Even in marriage you have the right to feel differently about someone. My future reference to you is that you should not jump into marriage. Anybody can say the right things too you over the internet, because they're looking at it from the outside in. If you're willing to give up your marriage with your husband to marry someone that will die anyway then who am I too tell you any different. Plenty of people have been known to meet over the internet and have successful marriages. My only question to you is how will you get a divorce if it doesn't exists in your country.
Arranged marriages are something else aren't they?
Good luck and God bless you.
2007-02-24 12:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by 00silky 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The very best you can do for yourself is NOT to get married. OK so you developed this on line relationship. It has helped you through a rough time in your marriage. Being able to communicate on line is alot of fun but it can also lead to alot of problems, People are just not the same in person as they are on line. Your friend may not be what he tells you and should you give up everything you know to run and be at his side, who is to say you will not fall out of love with him as well.
Be cautious. Do not think with your heart. Think with your head. Everything you have is not worth losing to a stranger.
2007-02-24 12:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before you make a decision you might want to really think about it. How do you know for sure that the guy isn't lying to you? You need to ask yourself those questions before you make a decision like that. And you should think about all the possibilities. Like if the guy isn't who he says he is what are you going to do? What if you fall out of love with that guy, who will be there for you to lean on? These are just suggestions. You don't have to take it seriously if you don't want to. Hope I could help.
2007-02-24 11:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by SJ 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
fall inlove over the internet
the man has cancer
This is crazy... I dont believe you can fall inlove by typing. You dont know what this man is like. You have to be around someone in person to know who someone is. Therefore you cannot be truley inlove if you dont know who he is. You are inlove with the fantasy.
Plus he has cancer, that will be alot on you right there. What if his cancer came back and he got real sick? I took care of both my parents sick with cancer before they died. I dont wish it on anyone. Its extremely hard.
Are you prepared to lose your husband's trust for a man you dont really know?
2007-02-24 12:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Navulam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband need to work out your relationship. Any relationship can be fixed. You need to cut off all communication with the other guy and focus on your relationship with your husband. Figure out why you fell out of love with him and find ways to bring back the love you once had for him. He needs to help with this. Let him know that you want to work it out and tell him any way that he can help. Working it out together will bring you closer together even before you solve the problem.
2007-02-24 11:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by SouthernGirlTX 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this guy offers you a lot of love until you get bored of him and find some one else to love. Maybe you never should have gotten married. In my opinion there is no "falling out of love" you either loved the guy enough to marry him till death do you part or you didn't. If you didn't then you're living a lie and you are hurting both you and him. Guess you need to decide which is more important.
2007-02-24 11:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋