I go with my oparents every friday nights to their vollyball games. Since i am 17 they adluts are ok with me subbing on other teams who need players. Therer is this guy there who is married and has 2 kids one is close to my age. Every week he is like staring at me and flirting with me. I am a friendly person so i don't really wanna tell anyone cuz i don't want to make a big deeal about it. I have just started to tyalk to him more online and i know its wrong but i don't want to be mean cuz than i am afired that he will tell my parents about my cell phjone and other things he knows about that inm not suppose to have. WHAT should i do? Im kind of getting creeped out by this.
2007-02-24 11:38:57 · 19 answers · asked by countrybitc89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did not meet this guy online he plays volleyball with my parents i usally play on his team since some one is usallly not there
2007-02-24 13:28:50 · update #1
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS! If you are getting creeped out by this guy, your instincts are telling you something. Geez, this guy creeps me out and I don't even know him. Stop talking to him online. Tell him you don't want to talk to grown ups (that ought to make him feel old). If he continues to stare, email, or contact you in any other way, let your parents know. This guy sounds like a predator. Stay away from him!
2007-02-24 11:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U've rally got urself in a pickle, haven't u? The only thing u CAN do is tell ur parents-it won't be easy, but u HAVE to do it. This guy is preying on u, he could be a pedofile. Sit down w/parents ASAP, & tell them what's going on, chances r they'll be more upset with the guy than w/u. U may be punished in some way, but it's better than what u've been putting up with. Besides, it'll take a lot off ur mind & u won't have to put up w/him anymore, & that's what u want, right? Apoligize to ur folks for decieving them & take whatever they dish out as punishment. U'll be glad u did. Good Luck!!
2007-02-24 12:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me, this man knows what he is doing! He knows you are too young and you should be scared. You should have never started talking to him. Stop all the conversation and don't even be afraid of him telling on you for having a cell phone,lol. What he is doing is agaisnt the law. He is after a minor and you my dear are the one that could turn his world upside down. Not only would he be in trouble if he even meets with you other than on line his wife would find out and more than likely leave him. He has allot more to lose than you. I hope that you have learned a lesson about these creeps that are out there waiting to see if they can get in a young girls pants to satisfy there sick needs. Please if you know what is good for you , tell your mom and dad and let them protect you from this pervert.
2007-02-24 11:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By telling him things that are none of his business (such as about your cell) you have given him power. Don't talk to this man or any other man on chat. Telling him that you no longer wish to talk to a married man online or alone with him is not mean. He knows he has no business talking with you both because of his marital status and his age. If you feel he would blackmail you thats even further prove why you should not talk with him anymore. He'll even gain more things to blackmail you with if you continue conversing with him. And I'd be creeped out as well because he sounds like a creep! After asking him not to contact you anymore, if he continues then it would be time to involve your parents because obviously it would be out of your control. I knew a man that hit on young girls all his married life. He is now divorced and drives around town in his mustang with his dyed hair still trolling for young girls. Really sad.
2007-02-24 11:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having your parents mad about a cell phone is better than being creeped out by a man.
He really shouldn't be checking you out and talking to you online if you're only 17. I'm sure your dad would be interested in knowing that this adult male is stalking his daughter.
As far as you don't want to be mean to him--he's a grown man, he can deal with it. If he is making you feel that way, then he is taking advantage of you and this is already getting out of hand.
Bottom line, you said yourself--you are getting creeped out by his behavior. Your parents love you and they will want to protect you. Follow your gut!!
2007-02-24 11:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Violet777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. Anytime you feel "creeped out" about anything, you should go to your parents. That feeling is a warning something aint right.
As far as your cell phone and stuff... would you rather get told on or keep talking to this man and maybe end up raped?
Sounds harsh but its true. Life is full of hard descisions your seeing that now 17.
2007-02-24 11:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Navulam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to know where this is going.....you don't want him to tell your parents about things that you have that you are not suppose to have, so therefore you are going to continue to talk to him.....OK....are you willing to have sex with him so that he will not tell....that is where this is going....I would suggest that you tell your parents everything that you have...so that this guy cannot hold it over your head.....and then stop talking to him.....and do not go to anymore games....this is where you tell your mom that this guy creeps you out because he keeps starring at you and you feel uncomfortable......but you have to tell your parents the little secrets
2007-02-24 11:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, wake up here...your own good sense is warning you that you are heading for trouble...
don't talk to this guy online, or on the phone...not at all. make sure you are not alone with him...
and yes, if you have to, tell your dad...
or you could let this guy know you will start dropping hints to his wife, if he doesn't back off...be low key, keep your distance, stay away from the man as much as possible...if you have to be around him, stay close to his wife, or his kids...you sound smart, keep your wits about you.
listen to the warning your good judgement is giving you...
2007-02-24 11:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by waterlin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with most of the other respondents to your question you need to tell your parents about this, and also let this person know he is making you uncomfortable. He he won't stop go to the police and file a report on him. I would not worry about his feelings if he knows you are uncomfortable. Protect yourself first.
2007-02-24 11:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cell phones and stuff will seem like a minor thign if u tel lur parents...i know you dont wanna be mean, but you have to tell ur parents...that guy is a pervert...and dont talk to him on the net...he'll think ur into him and that will just make things worse...PLEASE, I'M BEGGING YOU, TELL UR PARENTS!!!!!
2007-02-24 11:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋