see i have a friend (kinda) who thinks i am her best friend. if i say i shop at these stores, she says that too. but she really doesnt at all.she lies just so she can be cool. if i want to buy a certain bag, she says oh i am too. i dont like her much. she wants to come to my birthday party, just cause she thinks i am her best friend and that there will be a popular girl there who is one of my best friends.now she thinks she is coming to my party. she always acts cool infront of me and my best friend. what should i do! please help me! oh and she is a little chubby. but thats ok.
2007-02-24 11:23:23 · 7 answers · asked by christy3368 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have explained to her many times for her to be herself. and she says she will and that she will change. but she never does!
2007-02-24 11:41:47 · update #1
You gotta tell her straight off "Im not your best friend". But maybe she'll be hurt so the best thing is: Find a girl who doesnt have a bestie but is realy nice (and some stuff in comman with that girl), introduce her to that girl.Good Luck!!
2007-02-24 11:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it must not be ok that she's chubby or you wouldn't have even mentioned it.
Secondly, if you don't like the girl don't invite her to your party. Don't string her along letting her believe you are her friend if you're not. You may hurt her, but it's best to just go ahead & get the situation resolved.
2007-02-24 19:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to ask yourself why you don't want to be her friend. Make sure you are not just being "shallow". If it is only because she copies you, then you need to confront her. Tell her that she needs to be herself. If you wanted to hang out with your clone, you'd carry a mirror around with you. She may not have figured out who "herself" is yet. Tell her you want to hang out with the real her, and if you want, you can even offer to help her find herself. As long as she agrees to try to stop copying you, there is no reason y'all can't be friends. Give her some time though, if she is used to copying people she admires, then it may be hard for her to stop right away even if she wants to.
2007-02-24 19:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by SouthernGirlTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you do her a favor and tell her the way she acts is annoying and that by her doing it it makes you not want to be around her. Sometimes people dont really realize what they are doing is annoying to others. Tell her as long as she keeps acting fake and copying you that you dont care to be around her.
2007-02-24 19:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be too mean....just tell her you already have a best friend.....and tell her she should try and develop her own sense of style
2007-02-24 19:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Shaken, Not Stirred. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lead her on and if your annoyed and just tell her how u feel about what she is doing.just stand up and tell her.
2007-02-24 19:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by queen shortie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to be her self...don't lead her on.....
2007-02-24 19:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tink Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋