how do i deal with pressure?

Question

im almost 15 y/o, im the typical popular, athletic,blonde, hot guy of high school, but my dad is pushing me so much to be this great athlete and ''businesss-man''. im already the quaterback in football, best records ever in swimming and in running(cross-country,etc), and i have tons of awards, medals, etc. but for my dad thats not enough, he always wants me to be better and better. i go to the gym 1-2 hours every day, i swim, i play football, basketball,tennis,volleyball,... even golf, but for my dad thats not enough. he also wants em to get straight A's and i do get them, but im killing myself. he is always working, or travelling around the world with my mom, and when he comesback he expects everything to be PERFECT

Answer 1

It's a shame ,really that we live in a society where we are taught at such an early age that there is no such thing as second place and you must win at everthing ,everytime,everyday.It just doesn't work that way. You're going to have to sit down with your parents and explain that there's no such thing as a person who wins all the time. Has it occurred to you that the reason your father pushes you so much is because he is trying to make up for his shortcomings by having your acheivements make up for it?
"Try not to become a man of success,but try to become a man of value".
Albert Einstein

Answer 2

It is sad when perfect parents push their perfectionism on their children. It usually makes their children not want to be all they could be. But what is even more sad are all of the kids that do not have a parent that cares enough to push and expect more from them.

He wants you to be the best and have the best. He wants you to reach you're goals and his way of showing you is just that his way.

High School years are the years when you need to consider what you want to do when you get out of High School. You need to sit down and think about what you want and when you are out of school and you have you're diploma and college is behind you you will be you're own person, if you let yourself be.

Love your father and be grateful he is there and does expect of you because there are so many that do not have what you have. And, I bet you know some of them!

You have a clear eyesight as to how you're father works. So don't let it hurt you're chances of becoming what you want to become, just accept it as his way and be done with it.

Answer 3

Get a planner to organize all of your events and activities. If you have trouble with anything, you should ask your friends or your teachers for help. If you feel that your dad is pressuring you too much, it doesn't hurt to stand up to him and tell him how you feel. Do whatever makes you happy. Though, your dad might not like the idea of you standing up to him and he might get mad. Just a warning and suggestion...

Answer 4

He wants you to be just like him...perfect.

Answer 5

give in :)