my wife had a miscarriage 2wks ago and the dr did a d and e(evacuation)
my questions are why did it happen and just how does she feel? u c I saw the fetis on her left inner thigh(as if the baby was clinging to it's mother. Now I will admit, that realy freaked me out.
what is she going through? ladys I have to understand it better so I'll know how to treat her.
anything to help me is GREATLY appriasheated E-mail me if you feel the need to.
THANKS TO ALL FOR ANY OF THE HELP!!!
P.S.my heart is crying right now u c this was our 3rd miscarriage
2007-02-24 10:58:32 · 9 answers · asked by under his feathers 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the baby was around 9 weeks
2007-02-24 11:06:27 · update #1
did I do something wrong to have this happen?
2007-02-24 11:17:00 · update #2
I am so sorry for your loss. My only advice is to be there for your wife, as I am sure that you are. Maybe it would be beneficial to talk to a pastor/priest/rabbi or even a counsler to sort through some of these emotions. Make sure that she doesn't fall into a slump, because it is very easy to do at a time like that. Take her out to get a massage or her nails done...something... I know it's hard but try to stay positive. My sister in law miscarried and then went on to a successful pregnancy who's now a healthy beautiful 4 year old boy. Take care and god bless!
2007-02-24 11:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriage is a very heartbreaking ordeal for a women, I have had two. My first miscarriage was 10 months after i had my first child. I was about 10 weeks and I felt as though it happened for a reason. I was 18 with a 10 month old and i knew another baby would have been hard but i did want him or her, i cried for 6 weeks and than I never got over it but it was in the back of my mind basically. My second was about 8 months ago and i was 23 weeks with identical twin boys, it hurts to this day to think about my little boys. When it first happened I would have given anything to have them back, I was sad but so angry. I kept blaming myself, i felt like it was my fault and i did something wrong. I had nightmares for months, I still remember seeing them and holding them and it makes me cry. I am now pregnant, 14 weeks and 5 days....I'm terrified something bad will happen and i will lose this baby that i want so bad. All I can suggest is hold her, make sure she knows it wasnt her fault and she didnt do anything to cause it. Dont force her to talk about it, wait untill she is ready. Just be there for her and try to understand that she is hurting. I feel for her and you as well, it must be hard for you too. I hope you both are ok and i wish you the best of luck in the future.
2007-02-24 19:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by BaBy KiSsEs!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that was me last year and it still hurts me a lot!! I had 2 miscarriages in a row and am now 16 weeks and scared. Just listen to her and be there for her my husband had no clue either and I will admit I was nasty but I didn't know what to do and I guess you never really do! I pray you two will have a healthy baby I joined an Internet chat room for women who miscarried and I felt that helped a bit so did my journal, but I still miss my baby I was 10 weeks the first time and had the same operation. Good luck to you both
2007-02-24 19:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mindie_Dooner 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so so sorry for your loss. It really is an indescribable pain.
When I lost my baby and had a D & C, I felt dead inside, it felt like they had sucked out my ovaries and that scared me. Its just so hard to describe the pain and anguish you feel. I'm sure your feelings are pretty close to hers.
Love her and be there for her, talk with each other about how you feel if that helps, or just be silent and hug.
As this is the third time, I just cant imagine how painful it must be for both of you. I dont think there is anything I can really say to help you. But be loving and caring, have plenty of hugs ready, sometimes words arent needed just a touch or a look. Ask her what she needs, whether it be to lay in bed by herself and cry or lay in bed with you and just be together. Watching pointless TV to take her mind of it, or eating a bunch of comfort food.
Just let her know you love her and are hurting to.
As to why it happened, no-one can really say.
But after losing two babies myself, I believe that these babies are too good for this world and so God takes them straight to heaven to be angels.
Again I am so so so sorry or your loss. I send you both love and blessings.
I'm sorry if this was of no help, but it is such a hard thing to go through and words just dont really explain it well enough. May you have a beautiful healthy baby in the not to distant future.
2007-02-24 21:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How far along was she? I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, I felt really sad and depressed for a month, but after that point I started to feel a little better, then a little better.. it's been 3 years now. Time heals. Just be caring, ask her if she wants anything.. take care of her, ya know? She'll get through this.
2007-02-24 19:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry *hug* your wife will needs to feel loved right now there's gonna be a lot of tears and anger as well she might be angry at the world for a while but it will get easier for her and you i feel sorry for you seeing that my husband and i went through the same thing i was 20 weeks and i was stood up and my husband saw everything which gave him nightmares i did go on to have a healthy baby 2 years later i hope things get better soon for you and your wife x
2007-02-24 19:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry! Your wife is feeling a tremendous sense of loss just like you are. She is also feeling the hormonal effects as well of being pregnant, so she may be more emotional and feel more physical discomfort like cramps, nausea and fatigue. Just treat her with kindness and let her know how you are feeling. I hope one day you will have the child you want so badly.
2007-02-24 19:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by twinmom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell you what it feels like to miscarry but I feel sorry for you and your wife. May God Bless you and give you strength in your time of need!!!
2007-02-24 19:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by lollypop_stick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude I understand your pain.
my wife and I lost 2 as well it really hurts for a while.
give it to God and ask Him to take it away for you. I know that is hard but believe in Him, and he will see you through.
2007-02-25 14:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by my dark side 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋