im willing to give up my marriage just for this guy from other country,i want to marry him.he is a cancer patient.we're both inlove i think.any comment?
2007-02-24 10:57:03 · 19 answers · asked by xxxx66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it is an on-line relationship and the two of you have never met, then dont count your chickens before they hatch. You need to meet in person to see if you really click. Words are one thing, but one never knows their real feelings unless you meet in the flesh. I thought I really liked someone I met chatting, thought we would get along like a house on fire, but when I met him in person the connection just wasnt there, so be very careful about falling in love without ever meeting. I need to ask you, is it love, ior do you feel sorry for this guy? He may live to be a ripe old age, depending on what kind of cancer he has and the treatments available. Just be sure first before you make the decision to leave your marriage. I get the feeling that your marriage isnt happy anyway, and probably you were chatting on line, hoping to meet someone who trully makes you happy. If you have fallen out of love with your husband, or if he treats you badly, then leave the marriage, but not for another man....leave for your own sake. Once you have left your marriage, then see if this other man is the love of your life. You say you are both in love, I think....so that tells me you are not sure. Meet him first, then decide if it is going to work. Whatever the situation, I think its clear you should leave your marriage anyway because you are unhappy and thats not fair to you or to your husband. You only have one shot at this life, so dont waste time in a relationship that is going nowhere.
2007-02-24 11:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, going into a relationship when you are married is beyond wrong. If you no longer love your husband that is one thing, but at least have enough respect for the man to tell him, and get a divorce BEFORE you enter into anything else. I also hope that there are no children involved in this.
Second, you need to tell you husband. Be honest, you loved him enough once to marry him, you should tell him what's going on. Lastly, whether the man has cancer or not, is not very important. What is important is how you feel for him. Have you even met him before?
You need to take some time and think about this very very seriously.Remember there are other lives and other feelings involved in this as well. While you will be your first priority, take BOTH men into consideration before you act.
2007-02-24 19:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by MrsLuzius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can overcome cancer! u cant overcome being unhappy. Go with the other guy. Its not fair that ur hubby has 2 sit around and endure that...just make sure its really love. Bring the new guy 2 houson Texas!!! We have M.D Anderson which is one of the best onocoloy hospitals in the world. Good luck. Let him know the cure 2 cancer is all in his way of thinking!!!
2007-02-24 19:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're already married & shouldn't be having an affair with him or anyone else. Do the right thing & stay with your husband & forget about this other guy. You say you THINK you're both in love? You don't sound very sure & on that note, work hard on making your marriage work.
2007-02-24 19:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you have made a commitment already.
I don't think you are in love. It may be lust, or even pity. You may think that you love this person, but we always want what we can't have, or feel is forbidden. Try to remember that the grass isn't greener on the other side. I know this from real life experience.
Hope this helps and best of luck to you...
2007-02-24 19:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by oracle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me,you made vows to stick by your husband no matter what but if you're gonna cheat on him,that's not right atleast tell your husband the truth,so you two can get a divorce.He at least deserves to know that you are with another man.
2007-02-24 19:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with your marriage that you want to give it up and go with this guy? Is your marriage beyond repair?
Before you actually give up your marriage and go to this guy OR have him come to you (which he probably won't if he's receiving care in his country) is there a way you can PROVE he's really a cancer patient?
Please be careful. And under NO CIRCUMSTANCES send him money!!!
2007-02-24 19:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the kind of person who makes the rest of us women look bad...Your HUSBAND DESERVES BETTER..DO HIM A FAVOR AND GO TO THE GUY YOU TALK TO ON THE NET..I am sure thats were you both met...If this is the case then you have no idea what your doing...YOU THINK YOUR BOTH INLOVE
2007-02-24 19:09:37
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You fell in love with him or you feel sorry for him? It's your marriage and you alone will ultimatley bear the responsibility for your dicision. Is he your patient? I can't tell you what to decide. I would suggest you review your wedding vows. You loved your husband once also.
2007-02-24 19:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by crazyoldman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Stop saying "shall."
2) He's from another country?
3) You're married?
4) He has cancer?
Have you lost your damn mind?
I hope someone gives you the swift kick in the head you need. You're not thinking clearly.
2007-02-24 19:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋