All of my cousins keep saying that and it gets on my nerves. They say you have to marry between 18-25 to get a healthy baby and I think that's all just wrong. I think it's just eating healthy and taking good care of yourself is getting a good baby. I want to save up and have a great job before I want to settle, and everyone know it takes time... But if I'm around 30's will my baby will more likely be unhealthy?
2007-02-24 10:00:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I gave birth to my first child at 25. I was ready at the time but unfortunately, my husband then (now ex) was not. It was a very emotionally turbulent time and I was very stressed and suffered pre-term labor and needed bedrest. I gave birth to my second child at 31. This time I had a supportive husband who was bursting with pride in me and our child-to-be. He made sure that I stayed healthy and stress-free. Our child is healthy and happy. My first has asthma and abandonment issues but is getting over them because she now has a wonderful daddy who she knows loves her. With today's technology, waiting until you are settled, financially prepared, and emotionally ready to have a child, even if it's in your thirties, is no longer a barrier to having a healthy child. Just take care of yourself now (eat right, exercise, and make wise choices) and you will remain healthly enough to have a healthy baby in your thirties.
2007-02-24 10:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by christibearb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a load of crap that they're telling you. You can have a healthy child at any age. The only thing is that if either parent is over 35 at the time, the chance of the baby having Down's Syndrome is *slightly* higher, but lots of older women have healthy babies that don't have Down's Syndrome. Madonna, for instance, had her first baby in her late thirties, and the second one when she was around 40, and both were fine. In fact, there was a lady recently that's in her sixties that had a healthy baby! So do what you want, and don't listen to your cousins. They're just ignorant.
2007-02-24 10:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From everyone that i have heard. The older you get having a baby the harder it is on you and the baby. But that is like over 35 when your risks increases. I am going to be 30 when I have my last one and he is healthy. And just because you are older doesn't mean anything will be wrong with the baby. and you are right it does depend on your health habits and lifestyle of things that could go wrong. And Good pre natal care is important. for any pregnancy to get the proper testing to let you if anything is wrong. So take your time, get your life together and wait to have your bouncing bundle of joy when you feel your ready.
2007-02-24 10:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 34 when my youngest child was born. I was tired, but she was healthy, born at 35 weeks 5 lbs 13 oz ready to come home when mom came home.
She is now 2 1/2 and has only been to the doctor because she was sick 2 times, and they were both after she was 2, and I credit that to daycare, not her health.
Breastfeeding will help keep your baby healthier than formula, because of the immunity's mom gives to baby through breast milk.
Don't listen to everyone else, do what you think is best for you. Your baby, when you are ready to have one, will be fine!
2007-02-24 10:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Renee B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your cousins sound like redneck morons- sorry. They are 100% wrong. Lots of people used to think that the chances of an older mom having a baby with Down Syndrome were higher than that of a younger woman, but that has pretty much been proven to be wrong. Stop listening to your cousins, and do what you feel is right for you- you sound like a mature, intelligent and responsible person.
2007-02-24 10:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was 33 when i had my second child and she is healthy and full of life, normal in every way.
It is true that the older you are the chance of birth defects and complications increases, but the danger zone is closer to after 40 than 30. Many women are delaying childbirth until after 30, personally i think you are more emotionally ready, and better prepared if you wait.
2007-02-24 10:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt' matter when you marry for you child. It is just after 35-40 you can have risks carring a child to full term. But I wouldn't worry, if your healthy and happy don't worry. We have new and advanced technology out there that can help everyone. So it doesn't matter when you marry for your baby... don't listen to those ppl b/c they are acting very ignorant.
2007-02-24 10:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, what on earth has marrage got to do with the conception of a child. Your right as long as you eat healthy.
2007-02-24 10:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 39 when pregnant with my son, and 40 when he was born---healthy. That's old wive's tales they are telling you. Or their own personal opinions. Take care.
2007-02-24 10:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋