My son is two months and various people in my family wants him to stay overnight at their homes. My family has always been big keeping each other children. I don't like the idea of my baby being without me just yet. Some of my family members are offended, and my mom said if my baby could talk he would call me a dumb mother.
2007-02-24 09:33:37 · 16 answers · asked by dannygippy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
What the heck is your mom saying something mean like that for? Remember, YOU'RE the mother. You do what's comfortable for you. I didn't let my kids sleep over my moms house until they were about a year old. (twins) and that was a hard night! They are 5 and I still don't like it but now they ask. If you stand your ground now and just say I'm not ready to be apart yet, they'll back off and when you're ready to allow it, you know the offer will still be there. Believe me You're not a dumb mother, you're a loving mother who wants her newborn to be near her!
Good luck:)
2007-02-24 09:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by woohoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son stayed away one night with my mom while we went to a wedding a couple of hours away. But since he's only done it one other time with my brother. The family members think they want your baby overnight, but they'll see how much work it is. I think your baby needs mommy so I'd wait until a year and then only every once in a while, and not alot of different people.
2007-02-24 14:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by aprilmommy06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For this question, it's best to take the "never say never" approach. You really have to judge each individual situation and decide if it is really warranted. If it's absolutely necessary, you shouldn't feel guilty about handing your baby to someone else for an overnight visit.
When my son was two months old, I left him with my parents for the night. I had to be at work really early (3:00 a.m.), and my husband also had to work early. It would have placed a serious stress on our lives to get ourselves and the baby ready to go for the day.
I agree with the previous answer about having a serious illness and needing some extra help while you're recuperating.
2007-02-24 17:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by jessicabee78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Let's see. When was it OK for YOU to spend the night?
Seriously though, it is OK to let your child stay the night at ANY age, as long as you TRUST the person(s) he is staying with. Imagine if just after you came home from the hospital, you became seriously ill and couldn't care for him. Where would he go then? Probably grandma's house! If you are sure that grandma has no problem feeding, changing, burping, etc. your son all night long, then let him stay. But ONLY if YOU feel comfortable and ready for that. If not, tell mom in no uncertain terms that you are not yet ready to let your child spend the night. You're mom, it's your prerogative.
2007-02-24 09:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by am_i_helpful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i need help my baby is 6 weeks old and my bfs mom has asked for a three day overnight visit with my daughter and my bf said he would make it happen but im not comfortable with it but i felt pressured to say let her go how do i talk to his mom without her getting angry and maybe come to an agreement we can all be happy with cause i dont feel comfortable at all leaving her overnight with anyone not even my own parents so why should i do it for them if i dont do it for my parents. how do i tell her in a nice way that id like to come up with some better arrangements.
2014-03-21 19:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever You feel ready or the time is right to part with your son. There never is a right or wrong time as you need time to bond with your child properly
Although that being said you will need time and space to yourself as your son gets older to prevent getting stressed and if you mollycoddle your son it will be harder for you and your son to part overnight in the future wether its family or not.
I think your mum is being very insensitive to your feelings as it is your decision at the end of the day. Maybe your mother does not realise you want time with your child.
You and your son will benefit from your refusal to part at such an early age in the future as you will develop a close bond.
2007-02-24 09:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Spectlum260 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty rude that your family is pressuring you like that; if you are not ready to be seperated from your baby then don't do it.
However to answer your question, your child can stay overnight when you feel confortable that they will be okay in someone elses care. My daughter didn't spend the night until she was 4.
Just my opinion.
2007-02-24 09:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is a real piece of work. You can let him go overnight when YOU are ready. It's not a break for you if you will be stressed out the whole time. If you are breastfeeding I would wait a LOT longer.
You are the mom. You set the rules.
2007-02-24 09:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Way too young! I would wait until they were at least 3. No younger than that!
You are not a dumb mom you are a smart mom! Keep your baby with you!
2007-02-24 10:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm yea I would wait a lot longer czu 2 months is way too young. WAY TOO YOUNG! U would be craz to let them do that. I would wait till like he is 5 or 6 or maybe even 7.
2007-02-24 09:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by DDR QUEEN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋