She's in 6th grade. 11 years old. Has ADD.
She doesn't listen to music, watch the movies or read any of the books or magazines other kids in her class do. She dresses, well, the way my mom wants her to. She doesn't pick out her own clothes. She still plays with dolls. And knows nothing about society. She's afraid to talk on the phone. She panics over the stupidest things (ie: chosing what to wear, what to eat, if her meat has a little fat on it, doing homework, ect, ect). I mean PANICS!! Thowing fits and screaming and everything.
I want to help her get with it, but I don't know how. I'm 15. What can I do??
2007-02-24 09:19:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds like two things are going on: your sister has some serious problems (panic attacks, tantrums); and your sister is not interested in the same things as her peers.
It also sounds like your sister has problems beyond what a 15-year-old can fix. Is she in therapy? The tantrums, the panic attacks. . . these are things she may need professional help with, and the earlier she gets it, the better. If you are unsure how to deal with these issues, perhaps you should speak to a counselor at school about how to best help your sister.
As for the other issue: Your job as an older sister is to help her thrive as the person she is, not to make her like everyone else. If her interests are not the same as the kids in her class, so be it. Everyone is different. What you can do is offer to share the things you like: plan a movie night, offer her a manicure, etc. But if she'd rather, say, watch STAR WARS than American Idol, let it be. No one should give up what they enjoy so they can suffer through what other people enjoy.
2007-02-25 03:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by kimpenn09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the grandmother of 4 ADHD children, that are completely different. one was severely developmentally delayed due to
more physical aspects of her condition, another did extremely well until after high school graduation when she was first diagnosed with the condition, the twins had early childhood inter
vention and are doing just great at five, so you see each child and
case is different and don't react or respond the same.
How long has your family been aware of your sister's having this
problem, and what steps are being taken to see that she reaches
her full potential? All people do not develop at the same rate in life, rather they have a learning disability or not, and your sister may also be shy, especially if she is aware of not exactly fitting in.
I hope she is in the care of a doctor that is monitoring her and watching her progress, because in some cases medication is required. Please do not be embarrassed or blame your sister,because she will need your love , understanding, and support,and you may feel a little anger at her for as you put it,
not being in tune with things, but if she gets the guidance and support she needs from family, teachers, and friends, she will
blossom into the person she is on her way to become!!
2007-02-24 18:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only in the 6th grade. Give the poor kid a break. Maybe she just needs a little time to grow up.
2007-02-24 17:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept her the way she is, and help her gain confidence instead of trying to make her over the way you would like to see her. Some people just never quite "fit in", and amazingly enough they survive and grow to be happy adults. You don't have to be just like everybody else to have a life.
2007-02-24 17:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Paula from Maple Street 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her hang out with u 4 a little bit so she tries to get used to things if not then dont do anything let her be her
2007-02-25 01:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Pr!n(3ss @nn!3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out with you and your friends. She might take notice to the things you do and the things your friends do. It's vital that she adapts to society... Nothing can live if it doesn't adapt to its surroundings- that goes for your sister too.
2007-02-24 17:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Squeegee Beckingheim :-) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes only 11. Why do you want her to grow up so fast?
Be her friend, and love her for who she is.
2007-02-24 18:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by santobugito 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she'll probably start noticing if ppl are mean to her...and if she doesn't help her a bit but don't push too hard cuz that will just make her really insecure...try to hang out with her and get closer so that she can take *inspiration* from you...
2007-02-24 18:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by insane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is mature enough to start acting like her age and not a 1st grader it worked for me twice
2007-02-24 17:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you could try giving her a make-over and then maybe let her give you one. you could teach her how to wear makeup and how to make her feel good about herself. eleven is a very sensititve age, you might be better just letting her go through her 'akward' stage and just bond with her and become her friend
2007-02-24 17:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋