I was a virgin met this guy who tried everything possible to get me.I warned him and told him I was not interested and leave me alone finally one night he came over playing around one thing lead to another and he raped me.He asked for forgiveness and promised he will always be by my side I I amasked him to leave but he chose to stay.After staying away for a month he walks into my life and tell me it is over because he got a better woman who satisfy him.I feel like killing this guy or doing something nasty.Any advice.I am a girl. Can't understand this guy.
2007-02-24 09:06:26 · 17 answers · asked by BLESSED 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You should consider reporting this to the police. Also you might need to see a doctor and have a check-up. There are many voluntary centers for supporting victims of rape and it would be a good idea to seek professional help from them. Nobody is going to force you to do anything that you don't want to do so try not to be too scared about talking to a counselor. Maybe you need to be scared of that guy so try to avoid him in future. Act now and get help! Check out the link below and get the contact details of a support center near to you. All the best & take better care of yourself.
2007-02-24 09:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by iani 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about the terrible thing that happened to you, and the trauma you have had to experience. Not to mention the thoughts that have probably plagued you since.
Pardon my bluntness, but you need to know this:
First of all, you should have contacted the authorities the day he forced himself on you. Even if you had to lock yourself in the bathroom to do so.
Secondly, why didn't you trust whatever it was in you that kept you from accepting his attentions in the first place? (Your instincts were right.)That would have kept you from ignoring the one thing that is probably plain to everyone else: he asked you to forgive him and made those promises to prevent you from reporting the incident, which is exactly what happened. He is most likely thinking that your charges won't stand now because you didn't report the incident immediately afterwards, and enough time has passed so that there is little likelihood that physical evidence remains to convict him.
He was a very slick person. He got you, and then enlisted your help to keep him from the punishment he deserved. Then, when the coast was clear, he had no reason to stick around.
Sorry that this might appear harsh, I don't mean to be. But I don't want to sugarcoat this to make it easier to swallow.
Contact a female crisis line (try to find one in your area that specializes in rape cases) or a lawyer and tell them everything. The crisis line will be more familiar with your situation, and will probably be able to advise you better.
Please don't feel bad about not realizing what he was up to. Smarter and more experienced women have been through this. And there are many victims who are far, far from adulthood.
And don't let this sour you on men. As in every area of life, there are those who are the snakes and scum of society, but there are some real princes out there too. Someone who will make you forget we have cold, callous, calculating people in the world. I hope you find yours as soon as you are okay with it.
Just remember: This, too, will pass.
And I hope this helps.
2007-02-24 17:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and have him arrested for rape. I can't understand why you disrespect yourself so much that you didn't do this the moment it happened. If you were playing around, are you sure you were raped or just seduced?Rapists don't stay because they are running from the police. This all sounds consensual. How can you be raped by "playing around" and letting him stay? At least get tested for STD's and pregnancy. Do you care enough to do that? He took advantage of you because you let him Rape? I think not. Put this behind you and keep your legs closed.I hope you learned something.Sounds like you're jealous of the other woman. One does not talk to a rapist. Your story is twisted.Value yourself Respect yourself and know there is a big difference between rape and seduction.Have a better year.
2007-02-24 22:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I have is stay away from this creep. Anything bad you might do will only hurt you in the long run, so learn this lesson and be a little more aware of the next guy who wants to have sex with you. Reporting him to cops is a lose-lose situation for you, under the circumstances. Sorry, but that's the way our system works. You said, he said. Take care.
2007-02-24 17:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly raped why haven't you reported this guy to the authorities??? If you aren't going to do that at least get yourself some counseling so that you can put this behind you. At the same time, I understand you are angry at him, but you also allowed him to stay afterwards --- he didn't choose too - you allowed him to. Perhaps reality is that you really wanted it but are in denial and are now hurt that he has moved on.
2007-02-24 17:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by babeebluez73 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately if this happened to u a long time ago it may be to late if u don't haven any proof. it sucks but that is how the justice system works. you should always report immediately after and do not shower or clean yourself until u go to the hospital.
2007-02-24 17:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me. You report that prick to the police immediately. How are you going to let some asshole rape you? He should be in jail. If you truly want to get him back, turn him in to the police. It is the right thing to do and the best revenge you could possible get.
2007-02-24 17:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police because he raped you. Honestly, that is all you need to do. And I really think you should do it for yourself and for the safety of other girls out there since this guy is a sick creep.
2007-02-24 17:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Erin D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should have been more assertive and aggressive you should have told your parents and police. don't you know a guy or even a woman will tell you anything if their main objective is to have sex. not everyone is like this, you need to learn from this, you could not be lucky next time and end up dead or with HIV
2007-02-24 17:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has left its quite understandable that he wz never in love with u .. He just want to flurt u.. Anyway happened s happened.....U will surly meet a guy who will be with u always and under..... ur problems ...
2007-02-24 17:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by sarath 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋