I'm not your typical girl; I don't shop at brand name stores or obsess over how I look. I'm a hippie and a little punk. I get along with most people and am pretty open-minded. I like guys who are funny but also able to have deep intelligent conversations. I've known this kid since I was 8 or so, we used to argue all the time when we were younger. We're cool now. But he's the popular football star...whatever. I don't care about his popularity or football playing ability, I like who he is. He can have almost anyone, though he doesn't. We talk some but I don't know how he feels about me or anyone for that matter. I'm not exactly shy and I don't have a problem with asking the guy out. Sometimes I want to ask him out but I'm unsure. I've never told any of my friends how I feel about him so I don't know about telling him..now what?
2007-02-24 08:48:09 · 18 answers · asked by 18289 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't know if you'll listen to me, but here's what I think. Don't ask him out on a date. Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. Be casual about it. By the sounds of it, he probably likes you to. What ever you do, make him come to you. It'll be worth it in the long run. Good luck, I hope you find your happiness.
2007-02-24 08:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a lot like you when I was in school. I wasn't into brand names, labels, make-up, etc. My best friend was a guy, just like yours. He was cute, popular, and could have any girl he wanted. We used to go out all the time, but as friends. We used to just hang out together with no strings attached, and we always had such a good time.
We did share a few romantic moments, but we realized that we were sooooo much better as friends. Now, 20 years later he's married with a new little girl and I have been with the same guy for almost 8 years now. And, we are still super close.
So, if I were you, I'd just suggest hanging out with him, and just being his friend. Let things happen naturally and see where they go. And, by the way, you two seem to be very close, and if that is the case, you should be able to tell him how you feel.
Talk with your friends and get some feedback. Then just follow your heart...it won't steer you wrong.
Good Luck to you, hon.
2007-02-24 09:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Chell B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still talk a lot, call him, and tell him you are going to the movies to see XYZ, and your friend just bailed, and ask if he would like to buddy up with you.
If you don't talk often, email or message him and say you need to get a gift for a mutual friends birthday/mother's birthday, birth in the family, an A in Physics, whatever...and se if he will come along.
If you need to brush up on the talking, do it OUTSIDE of school. He may act differently while around his peers. Don't feel pressure to try and get himn interested in you if the above does not work. You may have a crush on him, he may not. WHatever you do, do not feel hurt or rejected, and do not change the way you are!!! You are a special person, you may remain plain friends for a long time still, but the right time will come and the right kind of guy as well and ka-boom, it will click and work out right off the bat!
So stiff upper lip. Be a strong woman! (with or without him)
2007-02-24 08:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you two have known each other for a long time, why don't you ask him if he would like to do something like go to a movie.
Don't make a big deal about it, just keep it casual like friends.
You don't even have to call it a date.
You will get a chance to see how he responds to doing something with you (movie, or whatever) without the pressure of being on a date. This way you can get to see what he is like, and maybe you might get to see how he feels about you.
Keep it casual and see how it goes.
2007-02-24 08:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like what I was way back in the early days, except I was kind of average girl dresser.
So, since you are friends don't be afraid to ask him if wants to go "Dutch Treat" with you to some pizza or Chinese food place and hang out. He can "yes" or "no" or "I'll take a rain check".
In this day and age it is OK to ask a guy out. And if you want to offer to pay for the whole get together it's OK too.
Go for it!
2007-02-24 09:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy like that, towards a girl like you in his life, would find you very desirable if you approached him discreetly but directly, and convinced him with your eyes, that you knew who HE was and you know who he IS. Blow his mind and be bold and frank and show him a side of you he's probably been fantasizing about since he hit puberty.
Make sure he's real, though. If he's a phony let him grow up some first.
2007-02-24 09:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by jemrx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If you like him maybe you should ask him out. Y'all might get along and always start at friends. Then later on the road of life, y'all might have something going on. You should always love someone for who they are. Never pretend to be someone else. Good luck!
2007-02-24 08:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Robby M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Himmm!!!! He sounds like the average guy that might be influenced by his locker room friends, but he is just so cute and has those personality things that make him want to be with you. He might not know how to express himself. Make yourself known to him, it isn't the end of the world, who knows, you might last 60 days or 60 years?
You sound a lot like me, not into the designers or name brands or hair salons, but you sound like you are real. I have found that guys like that and can relate to that more than the fu-fu cheerleader, bow to me, kiss my feet princess types. At least let him know how you feel about him and after that let him make his mind up.....it sounds like their might be a lot going on there.
Whether yes or no, you sound like you know where you are going so whether he likes you or not, you are better off letting him know.......it sounds like you can handle it anyways, better than the fu-fus that would "be so devastated, like, oh my gosh!"
2007-02-24 09:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out, but be sure that he is defending you from others, cause I'm sure he will get trash talk from his friends with going out with someone that isn't popular, and be sure that his popularity is less important than you, cause if he is more concerned about popularity, then it's not worth it for the relationship.
2007-02-24 08:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get relaxed with your self now what u do is call him and if he answers tell him ima call u back but dont answer your phone thats wat u tell him. after u reach his voicemail then u tell him how u feel and ask him do u want to go out on a date? then u make sure he doesnt have a girlfriend if he does spend every moment with him if u can. then she will get jealous and dump him then he will be all yours! Now dont u just love when i give u advice?
2007-02-24 08:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn Wilson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋