Iam recently divorced, and am now in another relationship. I love my current boyfriend, but still care very much for my ex, and always will. He is the father of our 3 children and will always be a part of my life. Is it wrong to still love him?
2007-02-24 08:41:16 · 19 answers · asked by cool30mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can love someone without being in love with them. It's a different kind of love. As long as you know the difference between those two feelings it is okay. Just make sure that you don't desire or have a fantasy of going back to the ex. This wouldn't be fair to the new boyfriend. You must be able to make your mind up on who you want to be with and commit one way or another.
2007-02-24 08:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong since you do have 3 kids together but this doesn't mean that you actually love him. You probably still care about him because he's the father of your children but he IS your ex therefore you should get over him if you want to get involved with someone else.
2007-02-24 08:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different kinds of love. You love your ex because you two have a long history together and because he is the father of your children, but that does not mean that you are 'in-love' with him. You don't say why you and your ex got divorced. Hopefully you are not 'in-love' with two men. There is a difference between loving someone as an old friend and being in-love with someone. Only you can decide which one you are in-love with!
2007-02-24 08:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way that it's wrong is that you started another rlationship when you weren't over your last one. This is immature and cruel to your current boyfriend.
Always make sure you're ready to start a new tionship before you jump in and hurt someone and don' give them the love, attention, and respect that they deserve for choosing you overall the other people out there.
Forget about your ex. He;s moved on and so should you. Train your mind to think about other things when he pops into your head. It takes time, but it's very possible.
2007-02-24 08:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong, but are you and your ex regretting the divorce? If you are, it's never wrong to remarry. Sometimes the bad situations can turn good and wake people up. It's never too late unless one of you marries again. I think you need to think about what you want and then make a move. I guess it just depends if you want your ex as your husband or if you want to continue your relationship with your boyfriend. It's a tough decision, but you need to be honest with yourself and then do what you feel is good for you and your kids.
2007-02-24 08:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It honestly seems that you didnt give yourself enough time to get out the married mode, and everyone is different, but yes you will have that connection with your ex but if there are still deep feelings you shouldnt of entered into another relationship, staying cordial with your ex is fine but anything else is not fair to you, your kids, and now that other guy....
2007-02-24 09:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you will always love him but just not in the romantic way, just in a caring way as he is the father of your children. If you truly love your new boyfriend that is what really matters.
2007-02-24 08:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the human heart doesn't shut on and off like a light switch. My husband is very cold and mean and I met a man at work a few years ago. He was very nice to me and we hung out a lot. I wish I could shut off my feelings for him, too. Just remember to love from afar. Appreciate and nurture your current relationship.
2007-02-24 09:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone, you promise (and mean it at the time:) to love each other forever. then you have children together-human beings that could not exist had you two not helped create them together. you have life experience and share things that you share with no one else. just because a court document says the marriage is dissolved doesn't mean your heart is magically "fixed", and all your experiences never happened. they helped make you who you are today. it's natural to love someone like that, i think. now, if your "IN love" with your ex... that's a whole 'nother thing... :)
2007-02-24 08:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are "recently" divorced you should not have jumped into another relationship so fast. You should not subject your children to another man in your life so soon.
2007-02-24 08:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋