i want my exhusband back because i hate being single?

Question

i cant take being single, i want someone in my life. Is it wrong to want to be with my exhusband because of fear i wont find anyone else? We get along great , we divorced because the connection wasnt there anymore..but i think we can work on that.

Answer 1

Your going back for the same reasons you left.You don't want to be alone.So you will go back where it didn't work so you won't have to be alone' Not the right reason .Read this site there are hundreds or more here as you are.Find yourself being alone is not so bad better to be alone & alone than being with someone & being alone.
I like being alone as i have not found someone with intrests as mine???? Can't settle for less to much stress.
Give yourself some time. Decide what your intrests are an find someone to explore them together.Settling for less is a was of time. Hope this helps Have fun

Answer 2

I think if you went back with your ex many of the issues that caused you to divorce would creep back unless you talked to a marriage counsellor or someone who could help the two of you work things out. It's hard being single, you could try getting involved in some other things as a way of meeting people, but many people do get back together after being separated or divorced, just make sure it's not for the wrong reasons and it's what both of you want. Good-Luck

Answer 3

That's not a good enough reason to go back to ex-husband. What is it that you hate about being single? How many serious relationships had you had before you divorced? Also, it doesn't sound to me like you did everything in your power to work out the issues of your marriage before you ended it. If the connection was no longer there, then you should have worked together to figure out what happened before chucking the marriage.

It's wrong to go back to your husband for fear of being alone; it's not him you're going to, you're running away from being alone. There's nothing wrong with wanting someone in your life, but the relationship has to be mutually beneficial. Would you want someone to latch onto you because they were afraid of being alone? How would it make you feel if they had no interest at all in you, but just needed not to be by themselves? That not fair to them or you.

Before you begin with anyone, ex-husband or not, you need to evaluate yourself and get over your fear of being alone. If you don't, you'll just continue to be unhappy and marry for all the wrong reasons.

Answer 4

If you want him back just to fill the empty space then don't think about it. If you get along fine,now, it could be because there's no longer something bonding you together and you're both more relaxed. If you had problems when you were married and these problems have not been resolved why open old wounds ? I'm certain that you'll find someone else. Good luck and be patient.

Answer 5

Well, if you truly care about him then you two should try to work things out. The connection was lost because neither of you took the initiative to go out on a limb and make the effort. If you think you can make the effort to be more affectionate with each other, then I think you should go for it. If you don't care about him and you just want someone there, then you need to leave him be and get on with your life. It's normal to feel this way, you're with someone so long and now you're alone, it's a strange feeling. Think about what you really want and then make your move.

Answer 6

and you probably won't find anyone else you feel as comfortable with. but that isn't a reason to marry someone. you want to marry so you can feel better, not for what you have to offer in a marriage. maybe that's why you got the divorce, because of selfishness. you don't need to be with anyone until you grow as a person and understand that it can't always be all about you. romance is over rated and women like you have an addiction to it, when he quit romancing you, "the connection wasn't there anymore" it is very fatiguing to try to make unhappy people happy, you depend on your happiness to come from outside of you, it doesn't, it should come from within, a spouse is someone you share your life with, not someone responsible for your bliss.
ok, so lets say he decides to give you another shot and you can't re-establish "the connection", you will divorce again, leaving his life in shambles, dealing with situations that guys don't deal with very well, all for what, so you don't feel lonely. it's a natural thing that when a persons self esteem is low, they seek out someone that loved them before ( hence all the lost love websites), kinda like a security net. but you need to move on and take a chance that someone will find a reason to love you again. move forward and not backwards. find out who you are as a person . I know that sounds like a lot of crap that people always tell you to do, but it's true. you can't see the future and you have no idea what it holds, but if you keep thinking self destructive thoughts, your thoughts will come to pass. you won't se the woods for all the trees. when you marry , it should be because you want to be with that person and not because you don't want to be with yourself, if you don't like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to like you. good luck.............

Answer 7

You need to work on the connection. That's no reason to get a divorce in the first place. Especially if there are kids involved - talk to him and see if he's willing to work it out.

Answer 8

At least you are honest with your feelings, however it is not a good enough reason to want to get back with your X. if you could have worked it out you would have tryed harder before making the decision to divorce. I totally understand where you are comming from, i too wanted my X back, but after alot of thought i knew it would not work. We have to get happy with ourselves, and enjoy being single, before we can think of getting involved again.Moving forward is our goal not backwards to old mistakes.

Answer 9

well maybe you guys need to talk about that,,,, I know alot of people that have gotten divorced and have gotten back together becuase TIME heals all wounds,,, some people are better offf friends for a while..... I thinks its natural to want someone back into your life but i would advise you to think about it hard and long before you rush back into anything again with him if your just gonna get hurt again.... talk with him and see how things go with him it might be able to work

Answer 10

Too many times woman seem to define their lives by having a man in it. What's wrong with just finding yourself first? Sounds like you got bored of your ex. Maybe you would be better off just being friends. If you still love him and he still loves you, then maybe. Just a suggestion...try living together first, if he's game, that way you'll know for sure.