I'm 24, my wife is 21. We've been together over 3 years and have two little boys. My wife wants to bring another woman to bed with us, but I'm not positive that it would be good for our marriage. Who's done this before and how did it work out for you?
2007-02-24 08:15:46 · 33 answers · asked by Boom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say if you do not want to do this, you should possibly start dating other men, because you are closet homosexual
2007-02-24 08:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by killerkatana75 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
We've had many threesomes, both MFM and FMF, and we've never had any issues between us or with our playmates. The key is that you are both on the same page regarding it, and that you are both secure in yourselves, each other, and your relationship. If you are you don't have to worry about jealousy issues since you know that your spouse won't leave you just because they had good sex with someone else.
For some really good, honest, and objective information, check-out the forums on The Swingers Board. You'll find answers to virtually any question you have on there.
2007-02-26 08:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this and my wife is now with the other woman. She had said that is was "something she wanted to try and needed to find out about herself". I said that it was fine if that is what she needed. However, now I am alone. So just be careful about it and ask your wife why she wants another woman in bed with the two of you.
2007-02-24 08:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I think that her young age is too young to even consider this. I am 32 and my husband and I recently had our first and only 3 some.
Let me tell you.... I am the one who wanted it. I am the one who found the woman, I am the one who arranged everything. When we met her at a hotel, she informed me that I was in control. And I pretty much was. Nothing happened without my permission.
I enjoyed watching him go down on her and her on him. Yes, I was involved. They both went down on me, and he kissed me while she was going down on me. It was fun at the moment.
The problem was that he kissed her. I had been asking him to kiss me more for a while. (MY husband is a GREAT lover) But, I still wanted more kissing involved. Well, guess what. He kissed her. And I did not like it. I guess what happened was that my husband knew he could please me, and he had to prove to himself that he could pleas another woman. Well, he did please her, and along with that he kind'a forgot about me. To an extent. The way I said it to my husband was that he acted like he was with 2 woman. Not his wife and another woman.
Don't get me wrong, I believe that our marriage became stronger out of this. But, it still hurt pretty bad to think that his ego about pleasing another woman came before my feelings. HE said he just went with it. Perhaps he did, but I couldnot handle it.
Prior to this we had talked about this fantasy several times, and to be honest with you, on a lot of those occasions we had some really good sex nights. Now we do not talk about it. That is why they are fantasys... to stay fantasys. Wish we still had them.
Rent some porn, talk about what you both would like to do. Enjoy your own time alone in your bedroom. If this is something you both want after a few years, then try it. But, if your wife has EVER been jealous of anything, a woman flirting with you, a female co worker, etc. Then I suggest you don't go there. Good luck.
2007-02-24 15:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is looking to fulfill a fantasy of being with another woman (it's a normal fantasy and is nothing against you) and getting you involved is her permission slip. If she thinks that you are enjoying the other woman too much (even if you are not) it's going to cause a problem. Just give her permission and you stay out of it no matter how tempting.
2007-02-24 08:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction would have been, what's wrong with me and why does she feel the need to bring someone else in the relationship. Variety is the spice of life but what are you willing to give up in the end (marriage, probably). It's all fun and games but eventually she'll find the missing piece in the puzzle and my guess it's not going to be you.
2007-02-24 08:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by trojan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say how things will work out. You know your wife, we don't. I can tell you that if you do, do this, pay more attention to your wife than the other lady. You could tell her you would be more interested in watching her with another woman, again paying more attention to your wife.
2007-02-24 08:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by jon c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'll tell you exactly how it will turn out. when she brings this other woman in, and you get together, after you get together, she's going to start getting jeallous about how you were with this other woman, and that will cause problems, and then she might even say that she wants to get together with another guy, and when that happens, your not going to like that very much. so now, she's upset of the way you looked at this other woman, and now your upset because she wants to bring another guy. and there it goes. so take my advice. don't ever do anything like that. it will ruin your marriage.
2007-02-24 08:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by v k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been married very long for your wife to be making suggestions like that. Is she bi? I think I would ask her why she wants to do that. What if you fall for the other woman? Has she thought about that? What if the other woman has a disease? Too many things could go wrong. It is also adultery.
2007-02-24 08:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily about you not being good enough. My husband and I talked about it. He shot it down. He couldn't see anything good coming from it. But he did say IF it were going to happen, it would have to be someone we didn't know that we would never see again... then the fear of disease, etc. Who knows... but he "liked the way I was thinking" :) It's passed for right now. Watch a lot of movies. Maybe that will help. :)
2007-02-24 09:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're are right, it would not be good for your marriage. She will either get extremely jealous, be with women exclusively or bring in a guy next time. The real issue is that you should be enough for her. Ask why you're not.
2007-02-24 08:47:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋