i mentioned this once before but anyway, 2 years ago my "best" friend turned all my other friends against me. i made new friends and everything but i'm still depressed and i have no confidence after the incident and it took over my life. now, i'm always thinking about what people think of me, ALWAYS. she basically completely ruined my life. so, am i right to hate her and still be very angry? i know i shouldnt be angry but i cant help it. she never apologized or anything.
2007-02-24 08:14:27 · 16 answers · asked by rt1290 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People who have that kind of impact on your life merit deep hatred. They SO deserve it. But survive it, get past it, don't let it ruin you. The fact that SHE wanted it to ruin you is the very reason you shouldn't let her.
I know talk is cheap. But seriously, I care about you, and I want you to get past small and stupid people. You're better than that.
2007-02-24 08:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by A Wand'ring Minstrel I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry, hate is a strong word. Time makes everything better and you have moved on by making new friends. It's so hard to forgive someone you've trusted when they have hurt you, but if you forgive them it takes the anger out of you and your confidence will come back. It takes a long time to do this but you will grow as a person and be a little less trusting of people which may not be a good thing but in this world unfortunately we cannot trust everyone. Apologize to yourself for being so hard on yourself. Keep your head up.
2007-02-24 08:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by deborah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your anger is justified, but I think that at some point, you've just got to let it go. What she did was horrible, but if you keep carrying around that resentment, it's going to gnaw at you from the inside out.
Just accept the fact that you're better off without her. You don't need people like that in your life. She actually did you a favor. Don't let what she did to you affect the way you interact with people now though. That was in the past.
Remember that nothing in your life will change unless you start to change your perspective a bit. Despite what you may think, people aren't always looking at you and judging you. Give people a chance to see the real you-the you that you want people to see.
It was two years ago..move on with your life. Don't let her see how she's affected you. Be the bigger person. Good luck
2007-02-24 08:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u hav the right to still be mad and angry at her and to even hate her...but dont bring urself down cuz u r u and dnt need to worry bout what other ppl think of u cuz all tht counts is wht u think of urself.dnt stay depressed over this u hav new friends.the old friends u had then werent ur true friends or they wouldnt hav completely turned on u.
-sammy
2007-02-24 08:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy =) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get her out of your system completely. If any thought comes in your mind just snap it and think of some thing else. Breeding anger harms us and forgiving is very tough though that is the best thing to do to be at peace.
2007-02-24 08:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My words of advice are this. Think to yourself "Am i sick of being mad?" if you are, then you just need to forget everything, be the bigger person. Start hanging out witht your old friends, confront thr friend you think you hate. But be positive! When you wake up you always have 2 choices... Today i can be mad, or today i can be happy... choose the better choice! Good Luck!
2007-02-24 08:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by magicalmayhem_07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HATE DESTROYS THE HATER, Does nothing to the person HATED!! FORGIVE US ARE TRESPASSES AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US!!!!! Take the weight off your shoulders and let the HATE GO!!!! It can ruin your present and future life"s journey!!! There is no future in holding on to it!!! BEST WISHES AND HAPPY TRAILS DAN
2007-02-24 08:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget, if only it were that simple! your hatred is justifiable but that doesn't make it permissible, yes she did about ruin your life and yes depression is natural, but try to focus on your new life and what lies before you!
2007-02-24 08:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Wesley O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends if its going to eat you up inside. If it still bothers you so. then you best let go. if she hasn't apologized, by now. she probably never will. If you are still angry, at her. and its still bothering you, then multiply that by your hate for her.
2007-02-24 08:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u dont have to like her but you cant hate her. you have to let it go and gain your life back. just try not to think about her or the problem. i hope this helps you.
2007-02-24 08:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by bestsaxplaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋