My friend and I are desperate! We're in middle school and we want to be popular. How do we do this? Most of the popular kids are in my class. Sometimes I talk to them, but the ignore me most of the time. Please help!
2007-02-24 08:09:31 · 26 answers · asked by Debby S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You want to know I ain't going to give you any nice answer I'll tell you the truth.
First: What ever there in to pretend your into the same thing.
Second:Get to know one and become friends with one.
Third:Talk about the things in class.
Fourth: If they ask you to come along you better come along. This step could be a short cut to popularity. Or if one asks you to be in there group.
Fifth: If the one that you made Friends with does a bad thing do the bad thing with them like skipping. If the one that you made friends with do that meet up with the one in the hallway. Yes I am telling you to skip to meet up the one in the hallway.
Sixth: keep repeating some of these steps and you'll be good with some in a month or so. Keep repeating except number two. Get to know all of them after you know one for a month or they might try to get to know you because your connect with one.
Note: It might be to late in the year to become popular because these steps take months to become popular. One of my friends did this and became popular and he now just became popular and he's been working on it since October. Also if your in grade eight rite now and you become popular at the end of the year next year you will not be popular because your at a new school.
So good luck hope this work for you because I seen it work.
2007-02-24 08:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by dannysiewpersad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by popular? Some girls and guys are popular for nothing but having an attractive body. This does not seem good. A lot of popular people are also phoney. Just be happy with who you are and the rest will work out. If they ignore you what does that tell you about them?
2007-02-24 16:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to be is kind. Period. To everyone. You may not be immediately popular, but in the long run, people (even dumb teenagers) appreciate a kind person. Don't gossip and say things that you would hate to have said about you. It's possible to be popular and kind and possible to be popular b/c you are kind. Don't misunderstand me, I place very little value on popularity (but I did in middle school!), but I recognize how deeply that desire runs. In the end, being like "them" is a quick fix for what you seek. You seek acceptance, right? Kindness gets you that. My brother, my sister, and I were all deemed "popular" ... but only b/c we were friendly and outgoing, not b/c we were with the "in" crowd. In our experience, sometimes the "in" crowd creates pressure that's undesirable and difficult to deal with. Being kind allows you the freedom to have whichever friends you choose and gets you the acceptance you seek. Most popular kids are dumb--be a smart one.
2007-02-24 16:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jen C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all .... being popular does not mean being part of a clique ... it means that people like you for yourself... being in a clique with other kids means that some are excluded and some are included, which means that at any time you can be out if some whim hits some of them .... so just
1 be nice yourself
2 dress nicely
3 always be neat and clean in all your habits
4 do your studies and get really good marks
5 stay away from jealousies, petty talk, and people who might bring you down ...
6 be respectful and polite to everyone
2007-02-24 16:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why do you want to be popular? Why would you want to hang out with people who ignore you? But I know what you mean. It's hard to be "out", but you can't become someone you're not just because you don't want to be rejected. Let people like you for who you ARE, not who you AREN'T. Plus, who will these people be after college and highschool? Being popular is not the important thing; liking yourself is all that matters. I hope this helps. ^_^
2007-02-24 16:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence I know how that feels but that is so superficial and shallow! The "popular kids" are not going to be cool in a couple of years and are going to be forgotten. The real popular people are the ones who are confident in themselves, happy, friendly, and have lots of friends. Be yourself, be different, and dont care about what other people say or think.
2007-02-24 16:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Chat Noir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By making the National Honor Society, and going to college at 16 instead of 18!
2007-02-24 16:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP. LISTEN.
i'm 12. 7th grade. i don't care about popularity. you should'nt work your but off to get a gruop 2 accept you isnt fun. been there. done that. if they dont like you for who you are then why should you be with them? stay slow! hang with your friends. the popular girls take serious risk. they struggle 2 stay skinny. date stuck up boys fust 2 make us jealous. don't stoop
DOWN
to they're level. live a happy life and you'll be better in any way
2007-02-24 16:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by кιяѕтү ;; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all be self and dint let anyone talk you in to some that you no is wrong and not ready for, most of all take a good look at the girls that you wish you was like there not being them self and there not happy, good luck and best wishes
2007-02-24 16:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by hannah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you try too hard you won't be yourself anymore, you'll be whatever other people want you to be. Just focus on having friends you love being with and who love being with you. Eventually you'll learn that having a comfortable circle of friends is better than trying too hard to be "popular."
2007-02-24 16:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Fenician 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋