If you were in a long term relationship, to the point where you had moved in together, and things started to go bad; at what point would you say enough?What would it take for you to decide to walk away and end it?There is no physical abuse, but dishonesty about important issues, and being emotionally shut out.Arguments have also become more common than communication.Do you give it one last try and try to work it out or do you leave and say thats it I'm done?How do you decide that it is unfixable?
2007-02-24 07:57:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, did I hit a nerve!K, to address some questions. We have known each other since high school, we dated briefly back then(set up by his cousin/my best friend). Stayed friends through alot of crap and last year after several years of lost contact reconnected.We finally admitted our feelings for each other, and decided to make it permanent. I love him dearly but it hurts to be shut out like this. I have a daughter who is 16, he has a son who is 11. His son lives in another province with his mother.He has alot of bad relationship advice from family/friends.( ie:honesty is not the best policy)I'm torn though, I love him and want it to work, but am uncertain how much more I can take.THere is more but I am almost out of space....
2007-02-24 08:11:35 · update #1
Well everyone thanks for your opinions. We ended up breaking up and the police are now looking for him for assaulting me. It has not been a good week.
2007-02-27 15:25:04 · update #2
You are the only one that knows how you feel and when you have had enough..Your gut feeling is telling you something or you would not have asked for our in put..If I were in your shoes I would end it and move on.I by no means say it would be easy to let go..You will get over him in time..GO with your feelings on this I am pretty sure they are telling you that you have had enough and you don't feel the same toward him as you did before..Let him go before he hurts you more..
2007-02-24 08:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by charmed4412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel like it's not working and you are not married and/or have children then you should move on. People keep trying to make it work or give things another try over and over again for too long until they realize they need to move on. It's a hard thing to do especially if you were in a long relationship but in the end it's for the better. Of course this is my opinion though.
2007-02-24 08:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Alisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where the relationship stands. I wouldnt let that person bring you down, you can do alot better, if you dont care about someone then there is no need to be with them because you might find someone who you might like better. Ending long term relationships are hard but there is no need to put yourself through that stress if your not happy. It depends on what your heart tells you, do you really love that person enough to give it another try, or are you at the point where you have had enough. I would follow your heart, but i wouldnt take anything you didnt have to. good luck
2007-02-24 08:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by *WWE_Fan* (RAW) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dishonesty in a relationship would have been enough for me to walk away. Hey... sometimes you have to change the life you planned in order to find the life that you were meant to live.
"His son lives in another province..."
That sentence alone speaks volumes about his character. I'm not sure why you gave him any "try" at all.
2007-02-24 07:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just getting used to living with each other. It will take a little time for you to get used to it. Give it a little more time.
2007-02-24 08:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by pepper_y2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer of this question debends on the sort of this relationship.....
if this man was my husband i'll do my best to work it out and give it more than one time trying to fix it but if i felt that
i can't trust him any more in other way i felt that i'm not in safe with him surly i'll end it immediatly
2007-02-24 08:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by aya m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly you have answered your own question..how many times have you said to yourself...It's not that bad..I'll give it another shot...you didn't mention how long you've been together.
My philosophy is...if you've stopped growing together and started to lead seperate lives...the relationship is over....Good Luck
2007-02-24 08:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing, dishonesty, it wont get any better, i gave it several tries but some reason, she said she lied to protect me. RIGHT.. Move on and find someone who really cares. u deserve it.
2007-02-24 08:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it more tries until I know one of us have given up and is not willing to try. At that point, there is nothing that can be done.
2007-02-24 08:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it difficult to grow a plant into tree
or to cut a tree in pieces
similarly u both hav grown ur plant of love into tree
so dont cut it into pieces
there is summer and winter in life
u r going thrugh summer phase
slowly with time everything will become fine
just wait and watch
giv one try
easy to loose loved one
but difficult to find one
2007-02-24 08:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by rick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋