Statistics say that 70% of men cheat or have cheated at least once in the past year. But every time someone asks a question about a what they would do if they caught their husband cheating, the women respond, "Not my man because I would leave in a heart beat." So many people put down open relationships not knowing that over 70% of them are in one without the benefits. My question is, would women rather have an open relationship or just be kept in the dark? P.S. I am not down on marriage, I'm up on honesty.
2007-02-24 07:21:51 · 26 answers · asked by jax0817 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband had an affair and I'm still here. Why? 2 kids. Thats why. If i have to live my life in misery to make them happy, then I will. Maybe someday I will be here for the right reason, but until then, my kids.
2007-02-24 07:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think women say they would want to know or say they would know if their hubby is cheating BUT when it comes down to it, women really don't want to know. Women can't handle the fact that their man is prefering the company of another over them. They don't want to think that the man that they CHOSE to marry is making time for someone else. It's an ego thing maybe. But that doesn't mean it hurts any less if it happens. In terms of women, it's may be forgivable if it was just a sexual relationship that their hubby had with another woman. However, if there was actual love and feelings involved, that is something I think most would not or could not get over.
Open relationships aren't good either. That's just dirty. There's no commitment. There's no loyalty. I don't have much more to say about that.
2007-02-24 07:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most women would rather pretend and keep telling themselves they have the perfect marriage. No one wants to accept that their partner is cheating. I also read somewhere else that 70% of women cheat....so there's your 70 and 70. Now I'm one of the 30% that doesn't cheap so lets just hope my boyfriend is also one of the 30%
Most women are scared to leave marriages because you never know what could happen or they stay because of children.
A lot of women say they'd leave in a heartbeat only because they don't think they'll ever have to actually leave.
Honestly how many people say "If the person cheats it's over forever" A lot! How many people give second chances? A lot.
People are stupid that way...I admit I'm stupid and give second chances...it's just the way people are.
2007-02-24 07:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have a relationship where my man was honest with me about what's going on with him. Being kept in the dark is too dangerous nowadays with diseases going around and things like that. An open relationship is too risky because of the same thing. If there's an issue where my man thought he needed to be intimate with someone else then he can let me know so I can go my way. Because according to the statistic there are 30% who stay faithful to their wives. Good men are hard to come by but I would rather be single than with someone who isn't man enough to be honest with me.
2007-02-24 07:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's really hard to deal with something like this. Speaking as someone who has gone through this crap, when you are in a relationship that there is or may be cheating going on, you would sometimes rather not know the truth. Of course, knowing the truth is always better in the long run!
I actually dated a guy for a few years and had heard that he was cheating on me. I refused to believe it for the longest time. Yeah, I was in denial. I ended up asking him on several ocassions if he was cheating. Of course he denied it. Eventually, I did find out the truth about his cheating ways. I have to say, when I found out the truth, it had felt like someone has ripped my insides out. I kid you not. At that point in time, I would have rather been kept in the dark. Now, it has been several years since I have seen this guy, and I thank every single day that I did find out the truth so that I was able to dump him. I couldn't imagine still being so naive and in denial amd being with this guy...it was like living a lie!
2007-02-24 07:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet just as many women cheat as men. Men just like to talk about to much. Men can't cheat without a partner. We can't be honest and say we want a open marriage so each cheat on each other. Then the women complain about the husband being cheaters. All her friends give her some sympathy and all is well!
2007-02-24 07:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by bigh5586 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a presumption that all married men that have an affair are having them with single women. That said, what about the single girl who has an affair with a married man? She obviously doesn't care if her "new found love" is a "no good cheating scum bag". Women are crazy. But ya gotta luv em. Some want to know and others keep themselves in the dark.
2007-02-24 07:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know plenty of women who say that they would leave in a heart beat, and I hear it quite a bit on YA.
I would neither want an open relationship or to be kept in the dark. What I want (and have) is an honest relationship that is aware of vulnerabilities due to his cheating. We are rebuilding the relationship and that means he has to earn his trust back and I have to be willing to forgive. It has brought us much closer together and I don't see the cheating happening again.
2007-02-24 07:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ur right on the first part women do say that.... then they end up staying out of fear im guessing or the kids...im sure there are a few men out there that are truthful and honest and dont forget women do it to now days.... as for an open relationship .... why get married in the first place.. marriage is a union between a man and a woman... they become one.... whats with all this sharing crap... no way will i share too many diseases out there that will kill you... i feel if u want an open relationship. get a divorce or dont get married.....
2007-02-24 07:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by gina B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather know the truth, in all circumstances. But, I'd walk out the door as soon as I knew he was cheated. My husband has never cheated on any girl he's been with. I've cheated on three boyfriends when I was younger, so if anyone would be more conditioned to cheating, it would be me. And, I'd end the marriage myself before cheating on my husband. But, like you, I prefer honesty.
2007-02-24 07:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm up on honesty too. So if he knows from the get go that I won't be enough for him, I'd rather he didn't waste my time. Even if I was 'open' to an open relationship or swinging, I'd want to know that the moment I decided it wasn't for me anymore, that he'd be kewl with that, and faithful to me.
Someone who can't keep their "richard" in their pants around others, isn't worth wasting my time on. Any man can be faithful if he chooses to be. It's a shame that so many aren't straight up with their partners and let them know that he will or may step out at some point.
2007-02-24 07:27:58 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋