I'm engaged to a good man who has issues.First off he's younger than me by 7 years and he's wonderful to my son.And he makes me feel like a queen, but he lies to me about things that he shouldn't.Now i feel like i can't trusted him because of something that happen in the past.Sometimes i feel like the issues are with me but it's not.We don't even talk as much as we use too.It's always let it go or it's not important.I don't know what to anymore.Should i just let go and move on or just be by myself 4 a little while.I just don't know what to do my relationship is fallen apart.
2007-02-24 07:20:38 · 17 answers · asked by ms.bitch 2 u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Youll get over it.
2007-02-24 07:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your relationship is doomed. Without trust you have no relationship. In fact, how can you say that you have a relationship if trust is in question here? Age differences can really be a big factor in whether relationships work or not too. Attitudes can be vastly different and so can likes and dislikes. This has more impact than you realize especially when it comes to down to commitment and faithfulness. Find someone who you can truly trust and is more in tune with your attitude. You will find yourself much happier.
2007-02-24 15:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard if he won't communicate with u and be honest. u don't communicate because it is always bad when u do. but if something is in the past, we need to let that go as long as it isn't still happening now. everyone has issues in relationships, and we do have to work on it, communication is a must.
2007-02-24 19:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to try and make things work, then you should start with counseling. If after x amount of months of counseling things still aren't working...then let go because someone's heart just isn't in it.
Communication is the key...
Good luck!
2007-02-24 15:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he doesn;t make you feel good if you know he lies. 2nd there r alot of men that would treat your son good... If your relationship is falling apart let it go .. you r not married & people who don't find your needs important r very self centered. They make horrible spouses. MOVE ON GIRL>>>>>>>>>>>
2007-02-24 16:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just scared of marriage? you should probably sit him down and talk and don't blame him for it...make it a mutual thing so you're not finger pointing.
tell him he needs to stop lying because you're not stupid and you will always find out- it's true us women are smart!
if all else fails well atleast you got out of it before the wedding. Divorce is never pretty.
2007-02-24 15:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are based off trust, if you can't trust him now, there will be bigger problems in the future. Try talking to him about your situation, see if it changes, if it does, great. If it doesn't, reconsider the engagement.
2007-02-24 15:23:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about the past; deal with the present and the future, instead. Maybe whatever he's keeping to himself is horrible to him, and he doesn't want to inflict it on you. As long as he doesn't lie about what happened yesterday, or something else that's relevant to you, then there isn't much to worry about.
2007-02-24 15:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be by yourself for a little while because the one taking all of this in is your son and if you are going to put another guy in his life it is affecting your son..so think about that first....i mean if you do decide to get another guy know that he's okay with you having a son..
2007-02-24 15:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by ALLWORK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is going to be your husband, you should feel that he is completely honest and open, nothing left behind. If you are not sure that is the case then you may want to reconsider.
2007-02-24 15:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by syrdell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is no trust then there really is't a relationship. trust and communication are two very important things in a relationship
2007-02-24 15:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by baby_girl_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋