2007-02-24 07:16:07 · 37 answers · asked by tracy w 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband cheated on me and i trust him as far as I can throw him at the moment. The affair just happened this past summer and I didnt know about it til Oct. So, it is still very fresh in my mind. I hope the trust comes back someday and soon. I think it will be a very long and rocky road and I still dont think I will ever trust him like i used to. He was so slick and good about his affair, almost too good, its like where did he learn to be such a good sneak and liar? I dont know, it will be tough, and I dont even know if i'll stick around long enough to find out.
2007-02-24 07:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It may take awhile (doubtful), but it will happen again. He feels entitled to do so and will undoubtedly shift the blame to you for some shortcoming, etc. Move on. There are better men out there. Trust me. My father is a serial cheater and I had a boyfriend who was the same way. Both professed to be super sorry and never to do it again, but guess what? Now I have a great husband who has integrity and honor. Hanging onto a cheater will never pay off. There's no point in having a relationship where you are always wondering and doubting. If you can't trust, the relationship is already dead.
2007-02-24 07:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stevie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but he has to prove to you day after day for the rest of his life that he can be trusted. My husband cheated on me before we got married (which was now 4 years ago), and I do trust him now. What he needs to understand is that any little lies that he tells you are going to keep you from rebuilding that trust again. Even if he lies about something like money, or something else completely unrelated to sex, it will keep you from rebuilding that trust.
If both of you truly love each other, and if you can tell that he is truly sorry for what he has done, then the 2 of you can definitely work it out and move past it. Hopefully he understands that it may take you years to fully trust him again.
Good luck, and if you have faith in the Lord, let Him help you through this!!! Prayer is more powerful than any human advice!
2007-02-24 07:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by taurus_0404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seem to be too many gut answers comming in to this question.
Have you tried to find out why he cheated on you?
It could have been a spure of the moment thing.
Does he seem to truely sorry for what he did?
If there is no trust you are better off seperating.
Do you feel this is the best thing to do?
If you don't want to seperate from him give him a second chance.
And learn to trust him again.
Be simpathetic to how he feels about the whole thing.
The chances are he hates himself for what he did, and would do anything to undo his stupid mistake.
I hope everything works out for the best, for both of you.
Don't say or do anything you might regret later
Time is a great healer
John
2007-02-25 05:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Personally i could never trust a man again if he had cheated on me.
I would be worried every time his phone was ringing wondering who it was, or if he was late home from work i would automatically think he is cheating on me again.
I think it makes you insecure when a guy cheats on you.
But that is just my opinion.
I hope everything turn out okay for you.
2007-02-24 08:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. relationships will have their ups and downs but one thing you should be able to count on is that your man is not sleeping around. No excuse would be good enough. Once the trust is gone, it's over. Some women would say forgive but in my view, you are forever on the back foot - I would feel like a laughing stock.
2007-02-24 07:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every day is a new day, a new start. remember that old saying: today is the first day of the rest of your life? well, try to live by that thought with people too. people do change, people do move forward positively. If you make the decision to put the past in the past you can be free from emotional obstacles. You cant make another person do the same though. keep yourself positive and hopefully your partner will follow your positive lead to stay on a good path. peace
2007-02-24 07:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really know what to say to you. was it you the man cheated on. if my husband cheated on me i would be devastated. i would always bring it up i wouldn't let it go also if he was ever going out it would always be in my mind what he had done in the past. have you been going out with him long. would it be easy for you to walk anyway. i know it wont be that easy but what i mean have you any ties together. for a moment of madness a life time of agony its your call girl are you a jealous person is it going to come between you anyway think before you make your next move don't sell yourself short your worth more than that you don't have to share your man your man should only have eyes for you. good luck be strong. x
2007-02-24 08:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife cheated on me once, just a one night thing. I tried to forgive her but I became suspicious of her and always felt she was doing things behind my back, which she was. Now she left me a year later cause she wants to be single, and who knows what else went on. I should have learned then. Trust doesn't come back %100. How can it?
2007-02-25 04:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don,t think you could ever totally trust someone after they have cheated on you, or it would be very hard
2007-02-24 09:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Janet C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋