This is my second pregnancy and each time he has said he doesn't like the bump, he says its weird and he doesn't like touching it.
He loves his daughter and is great with babies but it upsets me that he doesn't want to share with me when the baby kicks and stuff.
Why does he feel like this?
2007-02-24 07:16:04 · 19 answers · asked by cigaro19 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Many men feel like that you just have to accept that men are very unsure of what is really happening to our bodies when we are pregnant and it does not matter so long as they are good dads in the end.it is only for a few months and it is worth it.
2007-02-24 07:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, my hubby adores mine :). Why does he not like the bump? He should enjoy that it is the child growing in you. I don't know why he wouldn't. My hubby has felt my belly even before there was a bump because he knows we made our child and there is life growing in me. I couldn't tell you why, you might ask him why it is weird. My hubby loves my growing belly because he knows that with each day my belly gets bigger each day is a little closer to our baby coming into the world. Who knows, maybe it scares him. You might talk to him and ask why it feels weird. My hubby also says that he can't experience the things I go through so he wants to be able to experience the kicks and seeing the changes in me. It is good he is a great father and as long as it isn't because you are gaining weight that he doesn't have any interest, you should be fine. It is odd though. But sometimes men do odd things (not that we women don't) that we can't always understand.
17 weeks pregnant with first
2007-02-24 15:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are just weird about certain things. For some, it's the idea that there's something alive inside of you. At least he's good with your first one, now she's on the outside. He'll probably be good with this one, too. It's like the others said, it's a good thing it's us women that carry and deliver the babies. The men wouldn't be able to handle it. :)
Or we could always go with what my daughter says..."Boys are stupid!"
2007-02-24 15:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know what he is missing, not only is it an incredible thing to see & know that a new life is growing inside the womb but what I enjoyed was watching the amount of movement that the baby is capable of in such a confined space. I think especally with such a beautfull time of your lives he should take the time to understand its something both parents can enjoy.
Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy
2007-02-24 15:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by endac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that he doesn't know how to get excited about it, and perhaps even finds it a little intimidating. Pregnancy is an amazing process but I imagine its harder to experience from the outside. Or is he squeemish?
As long as he can be supportive in other ways, I wouldn't worry too much about it, expecially as you can see how good he is with your daughter now she is no longer a bump.
2007-02-24 17:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny as my partner is the same also wont make love as he just don't like it .This is also my second pregnancy and he was the same with the 1st as well i don't think its personal i just think they are squeamish he was great in the delivery room even though he didn't want to be there as he thought he might embarrass himself.Looks like we will just have to wait till the end huh!!! good luck by the way
2007-02-24 15:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh bless you, I can only imagine how horrible that feels for you. I have a friend whose husband refuses to have sex with her when shes pregnant because he doesnt like the bump either so although it upsets you, your man isnt the only one. Us women have enough insecurities about our changing shape without our man adding to that. I suppose you will have to take solace in knowing that once your baby is born he is a top Dad! xx
2007-02-24 17:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by doodlebip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iI would talk to him and tell him how much it upsets you when he says he doesnt like your bump.
Maybe its just alien to him and he doesn't feel the same as you because he cant feel what you are feeling or doesn't feel very involved - maybe he feels helpless as you are the one providing this safe haven for your baby and he thinks you don't need hI'm?
Either way, i think its more important and speaks more that he is a great dad with your daughter and im sure this will continue once your new baby is born.
Good luck!
2007-02-24 16:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Dinah L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all men are different. my hubby was the same he said it freaked him out when the baby moved and thought that he was hurting me. I think God was smart when he decided to let women carry the babies because there would be no children in this world if if it was up to the men carrying them. do not take it personnal they handle babies better outside and thats fine cuz you will bond with the baby yourself like i did.
2007-02-24 15:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by tammy_martin22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best person to answer this question is him....I love my wifes bump and I am forever kissing it and rubbing it so I cant understand why he would be like this. But there must be a reason. Good luck
2007-02-24 15:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋