ive just had my first day at work-ok only a saturday job but still. my dad came to pick me up and i was late cos some idiot came in at closin time and got a trolley full of stuff, i woz the only one on the checkouts, so i did it, and came out at 20 past 7, i got out and my dad woz like, 'where the hell have u been'!i couldnt believe it so we argued for 10 mins -gr8 after my first day, and then didnt speak 4 da rest of da way hme, den when i got in, noboday asked me how it went or anyfin, not that i really want them to be but it would just be nice, seein as if any of my sisters or parents take an exam or somethin, i'll get them a card and pressie to say good luck and text them to see how its goin and then ask them all about it when they get home. i just want it returned to me as 1 simple question, not really alot !!! anyway,do u think im being selfish and unreasonable to want to be asked1 question?????
thanks xx
2007-02-24 07:12:11 · 27 answers · asked by lalala 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
youre all being so nice, thanks, my first day was gr8 thank you!!!i met some lovely people, with lots of freindships to come-about 4 actually!!!! lol
2007-02-24 07:23:11 · update #1
in answer to aunt meanies question, im gonna try and save as much as i can for when i take a gap year- i want to go to Australia for a year (i live in the UK)!! xx
2007-02-24 07:26:09 · update #2
alaistair d, thanks hun, i didnt no because i was sooo pissed of with my dad! ure right tho, i should have asked them but i dont c y i should bother cos they dont give a **** about me. actually 1 sis asked me how it went and i was still so furious with my dad, that i just sed 'yea it was good' and nothin else- feel really bad now am gonna go and talk to her! thanks for ure advice hunni. xx
2007-02-24 07:52:39 · update #3
No your not being selfish good luck with the job and stop being so hard on yourself you seem a wonderful responsible young woman good luck
2007-02-24 20:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father knows that you work as a cashier and you mean he can't figure that there are some customers who take their time to get what they want and he had the nerve to yell at you? I am sorry to say this but your father is a F-UCKING A-SSHOLE and I hope you find another way of getting home then this jerk off. Now, as for you being selfish and unreasonable, you are not. Next time something happens where everyone is wishing good luck and such, you could either do the same or, make it where you do not say nothing and then have them be mad at you.
Take me for example. My cousin's birthday was in October. I wished her a happy birthday. She was happy and though no one remembered, but, she knew I did because she is my cousin-my first cousin. I love her very much. But, when my birthday came-in January-she did not wish me a happy birthday or nothing. Would I not wish her a happy birthday when it comes up again? No, I would wish her a happy birthday, making me the better person for doing so.
So, just keep in mind of what has happened. Good things may happen for you. Take the high road, find another way of getting home and keep your head up high.
Good luck.
2007-02-24 15:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - you are right to be upset. But keep it in perspective. You had a busy day. You worked late. Your dad was annoyed as he was kept waiting, and none of your family seemed interested when you came in the door. So you posted this question almost right away, because you felt hurt by the initial lack of attention. Maybe they all had various degrees of **** in their day that you aren't aware of yet - you did you ask them about 'their ' day when you got home, didn't you ? My advise is to give then a bit of time to reflect on their day, then when everyone is ready communications will flow in a more positive way.
2007-02-24 15:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unreasonable, no. Selfish? It does sound like maybe theres a tiny bit of a self-pity party going on. But, even so, that is quite normal I would think.
We all like to be told *Good job* etc.....and when we're not, its easy to feel let down. Some people just don't think about saying it to others. I know for me personally, I can spend an entire day cleaning the house, cook a really nice dinner for my kids.....and when they sit down, they'll complain that we're having green beans - AGAIN! And it makes me want to scream!!!!!!!!!!
Be proud of yourself hon, it seems to me you're just a teenager and you have a long, long life ahead of you yet.
Give yourself the validation you seek......you're worth it!
Good luck with your new job! What're ya going to do with all the money you make? Something fun I hope.
2007-02-24 15:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by L ♥ L ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being unreasonable and I would definately want someone like you on my staff! You stayed beyond the call of duty and your parents should be proud of you! Maybe they didn't realise what a big deal this is to you? But I would have thought that they would have asked. Did something happen at home whilst you were working that could have caused everyone else to be worried about something and not thinking straight?
2007-02-24 15:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jojotraveller 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucylu, this answer is not meant to patronse you in any way. As your journey in life goes on, you will find alot of people who have forgotten to ask after anyone even if they care. The world has become a place of self. If you are happy with yourself then you aint doin that bad. Dont get down, just live your life with the pleasant attitude you seem to have, the others will soon notice you, if they dont, its their loss. Keep smilin. x
2007-02-24 19:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your family didnt ask you about your day. Everyone's first day at work is a milestone and one that you will probably remember for a very long time. I hope that you feel proud of your achievements and the fact that you showed enought commitment to your work to serve the last customer stands you in good stead for anything you want to achieve in your future. Good on you
2007-02-24 15:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by pixienaefaebanff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your right. How was your day out of curiosity now lol. besides having a rough time at the end of the night was it good? and this will blow over im sure everyone just had a bad day perhaps explaining why your dad was so pissed off at something simple. x
2007-02-24 15:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by chris c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How was your first day on the job? Your dad needs to chill.....the rest of your family is very inconsiderate. Be thankful you are the one that was born with the graciousness and loyalty. I would approach each one of them and ask them what their problem is.
I hope your next day on the job you are able to get out of there on time so your pops won't have a tizzy.
2007-02-24 15:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were definitely not being selfish. They should have more consideration. Whenever someone starts a new job the first thing people ask is how you got on. Your family are the selfish ones.
2007-02-24 15:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by Honey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋