Why is he always Mad or in a Bad Mood????

Question

My fiance wakes up grumpy every morning and is a jerk to me and my son all day long. He acts like he hates me. I just don't get it. I wake up early to be with our kids (change the diapers and feed them). He sleeps in about 1 or 2 hours longer. He stays up until 3 or 4am every night. Why is he like this????

Note: We both are not working yet as we moved to a new state (if you were wondering). He is looking for a job and I plan to go to college to become a Dermatologist starting in March. Also, I am 23 years old and just learning about life and he is 38 and so bitter.

Answer 1

Why are you still there? If he wakes up grouchy every day, what's he contributing to the relationship? Since he acts like he hates you and you're still there, he has no reason to change. He's not setting a very good example for the children. Realize that your children are learning from the examples they see. Are you willing to watch your kids grow up like this weeny? Also, be careful not to catch his bitterness. It's an easy way to go but in the end it will tear you up. You likely deserve to be treated better than this.

Answer 2

I think you need to have a long talk with your fiance...and NOT think about marriage...You can get out . THere is NO need for anyone to mistreat you or your son , sitting around on the computer all night till 3 or 4 am then sleeping till whenever..No wonder he doesn't have a job. He's a 38 yr old bitter man who needs to get a reality check. Take your son with you and leave. WHY become HIS slave* You're already The Cook,cleaner and the person who raises the kids by yourself..Why allow him to treat you and your kids like this. THere should be No warning needed..there's no excuse for him to disregard anyof you as pieces of trash. LEAVE HIM NOW* and take your kids* You are right, to go to college and become a Dermatologist in March and I wish you all the best*~ I know you can do it* and raise your kids in a much more safe stable environment...(not in the environment you're living right now) GOODLUCK*

Answer 3

Doesn't sound like you two are very compatible. Between the mood differences, the age differences, and the paths you want to take in life I don't know if I would pursue marriage in your case. In your case - the fiance may have just started out having a good time with a young thing like you and it developed farther than he thought it would. I would weigh everything that is happening around you and think about it before commiting to him for life. You are still very young and able to find someone who is a better match to the type person that you are.

Answer 4

Why are you still with him? Does your son like him? If not, listen to your son-get away from the guy. It sounds like he is a person with some bitterness/anger issues. He needs to quit being up so late, sleeeping in so long, get up early, get ready, and get out of the house and go look for a job. I don't mean one or two a day-it takes 8 hrs. a day, 5 days a week to look for the job. He should try for 5 job contacts per day, 5 days per week. That's 15 contacts for a job per week. There is more opportunity for interviews, and that job, the more he actively looks. He may be grumpy 'cause he isn't working. Most men have that "need" to work in them. Plus, it sounds like the two of you, once the children are in bed, need to sit down and talk-openly and honestly. You need to let him know how you feel, how he is coming across to you and your son. He needs to get a job, shape up in his attitude, or bye. I wish you the best. Take care.

Answer 5

Depends, has he always been like this? You no alot of times in mood swing behaviors, like this its not always that your being hated, but drugs has alot to do with it. In many cases the other person in the realtionship,has no clue.
F.Y.I.: Crystal Meth, long hours, barley any time sleeping, distance self from family, friends, the world, sudden mood swings, burst of outrage, w/ little or no set offs ( No reason) , but I would have to say, weather it is drugs or he's just being a *** hole, I hope you can either work things out between the two of you, or you can go find somebody that's good for you and your babies.

Answer 6

You may not know the beginning of one that lacks discipline in Anger Mgmt. The better
you are to him, and the more good changes
life brings you both will still grow into Anger
& Hate consuming all that was once Love,
if professional help is not received. Temper
explosions creep in and make it dangerous
for you and the child. If it happens once, a
police officer told me, it will happen again.
You were not born to live & be treated
this way. Even the babe may hold it against you for being unaware home is not sweet.

Answer 7

A man that's not working is a grouchy man. I had a good male friend who lost his job. He went right down the toilet, until he found work again.

Tell him you understand he's upset but the next time he mouths off you're gonna make him wish he didn't. Then follow through with it. Get yourself a job NOW, don't worry about school right now. You need to get in gear in case you have to bolt.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need some help. He maybe depressed . If he is not working and you guys have already started a family,that maybe getting to him. Find an outlet for you and your son. I hope you can work this out before you get married! Good luck!

Answer 9

So why are you planning to marry this miserable sod? You want the rest of your life treading on egg shells around him all the time? If he already sucks as a fiance he will seem worse as a husband.

Answer 10

Do not waste more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage
Do not have kids out of wedlock.
Does not sound as it you have much of a future with this guy.