I mostly mean a person on the inside: their normal speed of doing things, attitudes, shortcomings, etc.
It seems regarding getting along on a daily basis it's better to be alike, but handling shortcomings it's better to be opposite so one can help the other. Your thoughts on all?
2007-02-24 06:48:40 · 10 answers · asked by Heywood J Helpaguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should find some one who complements you. Someone who is strong where you are weak. Someone who cheer you when you're feeling down
Opposites sometimes attract, but that does not necessarily make for a good relationship. These relationships are usually very exciting at first because the person is so different, but they burn out pretty quickly since you really have nothing in common. You mention the example of handling shortcomings. Suppose you are the very patient type. Your mate is very quick tempered.
Do you really think you will be happy with someone who flies off the handle every time you make a mistake, while you constantly overlook her shortcomings? You will end up bitter and frustrated.
2007-02-24 06:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dealing w/ each other w/repect is the most important thing along w/ trust. Its important to have common interest but not be the same {alike} this way u can help each other positively. SOME things like ideas about relationships should be the same or almost the same . That way u will go into the same direction to build the relationship of LOVE. Less tention when things get tough
2007-02-24 12:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by htrime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to be opposite in many cases so that you two can do your own things alone and then you need to be the same in other ways... so will have something to talk about and not debat over it... You need a little of both because if you don't then you have nothing to discover and that can make things boring or you have everything to discover and that can put a lot of stress on a relationship and may break the relationship rather than make it sooner than you may want... hope this helps... Good Luck!
2007-02-24 06:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Need to know 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how alike you are there is a difference somewhere. I think if you can get along with your opposite and handle their issues and your own then do that. If you can be with someone who is your "twin" then do that. My boyfriend and I are very similar but we also have a few differences and that keeps the relationship on it's toes I think. It gives us something else to laugh and talk about.
2007-02-24 07:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a good match, people tend to complement each other...where one is weak, the other strong...they have similar views on moral issues and enough in common to enjoy doing things together, but enough differences to keep life interesting and be able to have separate activities so they aren't glued at the hip.
They may have some common "weaknesses" but in general what one lacks, the other will have to a higher degree. For example, I'm somewhat of a shy introverted person much of the time, but I gravitate toward outgoing/extroverts for friends and dating partners. Our personalities seem to balance better that way.
2007-02-24 06:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Using our 36 yr. relationship for a model, I would say that ideally, you want a partner who understands the meaning of COMPROMISE.
If you have the ability to work out issues without unnecessary emotional trauma, and reach some kind of consensus, you're miles ahead of most couples.
My wife and I have a long list of common interests, although psychologically we have some significant differences. But far and above all of that is our ability to just coexist peacefully and not let the little things trip us up.
Compromise is probably one of the most significant traits of successful relationships.
2007-02-24 10:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It`s not about being similar or not. It`s about how you mix together. For example if you`re both tolerant..that`s fine, you get along. But if you`re both stubborn..well you can guess for yourself, can`t you? I think it`s a pretty good example so that you can understand what i mean
The personality you have must bind with the other`s personality.
2007-02-24 07:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're youthful, and so is she. Relationships should not be so perplexing. Yours has run its direction. Take an prolonged wreck and haven't any communique with one yet another. somewhat, date different females. God bless.
2016-11-25 21:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend r opposites and we never get alone he makes wrong decisions and i make good ones, so if i were u i would try to get someone who thinks like u.
2007-02-24 06:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by pretty girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just like you , compatible
2007-02-24 06:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by west 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋