What can I use is there something that works!!!!
2007-02-24 06:40:34 · 12 answers · asked by MELISSA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your doctor about it.
2007-02-24 06:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to a lot of women. One reason is that is that you have a child now that keeps you more that busy. I work in the medical field and I recently read an article about this subject. It stated that when a women has a child that bonding with that child take the place of the intimate that she and the father had before. This is a women thing men don't understand because it does not happen to them. But It has been five years for you. I would check with my doctor because there are medication out there that can increase sex drive in women.
2007-02-24 14:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you do have changes in your hormone levels after delivery and while breast-feeding which often lower your sexual desire. You are also completely worn out being a new parent.
But you are no longer a new parent, so five years is extreme. Plus I think people mean well, but saying things like "stupid men don't understand" is patently offensive. It might never happen to us but we can certainly be understanding, respectful, and educated.
Be careful of people telling you to just take hormone treatments - remember that increased estrogen levels can greatly increase your risk for certain cancers, especially breast cancer. And most of the 'natural' treatments like St. John's Wort and others have been shown in clinical trials to not only not help, but to actually do more harm than good.
Ask your physician not to just prescribe a pill and pat you on the head and send you on your way, but to run some hormone level tests to see what's going on with your blood work.
It certainly sounds like some of it could be physical, and some is psychological in nature, but you've given us zero info as to your desire for sex again, your weight change, your self image, your husband's support and understanding, sharing duties of child-rearing, your tiredness, your state of mind, etc. Which are all factors.
2007-02-24 15:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually there is, ask you gynocologist about progesteron cream, it will help promote better stimulation in the vaginal and clitoral area. Being a Mom takes alot of energy away from you that you most likely used to expend sexually, you need to make some time for just you. When you are not feeling so drained physically and emotionally your sex drive will be easier to boost. Allow yourself time for a long bath, go get a maicure, get your hair done.. anything that is just all about you... when you feel better about yourself, the rest will fall back in to place.
2007-02-24 15:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking 500iu's of Evening Primrose Oil (once a day for 1 wk then bump up to 2x's daily. If you have problems taking supplements or meds talk to your doctor first) - for many women that is a libido booster. Also, talk to your doctor about going off of the pill, if you are on it (that is a big libido killer - esp. if you've been on it for years). There are so many things that can affect your sex drive that it may not be any one thing. Lack of adequate sleep (common for moms), weight gain/lack of exercise, and stress from work and keeping up the house (common for working moms) are two huge negative effects on one's sex drive.
Don't just try to depend on a pill to get it back though. Start making lifestyle changes. Diet, de-stress (treat yourself to a professional massage or a spa day), exercise, enlist your hubby's help and make him aware that there will be perks in this for him, too. Men often equate sex with love. Let him know that you want and need to get back to a good sex life with him but you need his help. More than just telling you what to do. Have him become your partner in getting back to good. Not only will you benefit health wise but your relationship will achieve new heights, too.
2007-02-24 14:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doc about getting a testosterone blood test. Women have a small amount of that hormone in there body that plays a big role on sex drive. If that level is off, sex drive plumets. Some women take testosterone injections and benefit quite nicely from it, if you know what I mean?!
2007-02-24 15:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Get out and do more things. If you are married go out with your husband, sometimes without the son. Dress nicier and sexier. Also be more active. The more you do the more you feel like doing. Get into doing some sports around your community. You and your other will carry this over into your bed and other places also. If you set around it is hard to get motivated to do anything.
2007-02-24 14:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn, fantasy roleplay or even a hot young stud to re-activate you. Seriously, try to get a very hot young man in the sack to service you, that should do it.
2007-02-24 14:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a toy, they're great! Start yourself up, maybe you'll want to actually to the deed after remember how good it can feel.
2007-02-24 14:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try reading some womens porn books.... " Erotic Romance"
2007-02-24 14:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋