Any little advice from everyone please?

Question

I am very friendly and will do anything for the people i love just to keep smile on their face, but i don't get that back.
People happen not liking me and takes advantage of me at the end.
I attract alot of people but they away take advange of me or jealous of me. I got nothing, they mostly have better lives then i do.
But for to feel like this, it doesn't make me want to even be friend with anybody because they always end up hurting my feeling and it suck.

I love being me and i don't want to let that go just to fit in. I am careful with people's feeling, so i don't have to hurt them and don't want to be hurt but i alway get hurt at the end.

Do you have any advice for me.

Answer 1

They're jealous because you're happy and they're miserable ;D

Answer 2

Are you really meaning that everyone you meet hurts your feelings or just some specific people? I think you sound like a very nice person. If everyone you hang out with hurts your feelings, then you are hanging out with the wrong sort of people. Some groups in schools are known to be self centered and hurtful to others. Perhaps you need to look at the people you have been trying to befriend. Are they in that group? If so, maybe you should try a different group. Sometimes the "popular people" are so busy being self centered they have no time for anyone else. I am certain if you look around , you will find a group that you fit perfectly with. Don't give up. Be yourself .

Answer 3

You are too nice and ubfortunately people know that you'll do almost anything but say NO so they use that to their advantage. That makes you end up feeling used. It just seem like people just want you for what you can give THEM. You have to start being able to say NO. That does not mean you're a bad person,it means that you can balance out your own needs as well as helping others. Also, from the way your question is written I suspect that English is NOT your 1st language. Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 4

Yes, you sound like a lot like I am, that can't stand it to let the bad guy/girl win, to let things go (when it is obviously wrong happening, and to give them five bucks if they ask me for it.)

I was raised as a Christian and I thank God for my parents today, even though it wasn't cool growing up. My parents taught me about Christ and if you read about Him in the New Testament, He was always about "turning the other cheek" but that goes much deeper than fighting or anything. Even when you see wrong, don't judge, just know what not to do when you are in that situation, but do the right thing and tell them about it, etc.

My morals make me even more unpopular today, but thank God for them otherwise I would not have married this great guy and found how to trust God even more because of it.

I am the same way to people as you describe, I am trusting, accepting, honest and open, but they always find some way to take advantage of that in the end. I find comfort in the verse that says "the meek shall inherit the earth...." Not that I would want the earth, but someday God will somehow reward me for my meekness toward other people, and showing them kindness even though they might take advantage or even hurt me. Keep showing compassion and love to people and who knows, you might be the one that they remember and eventually come to Christ because of your example.....

Answer 5

My advice is that you read carefully from the Old Testament, the book of Deuteronomy chapters 27 and 28, and see if that sounds at all like you and/or your family. Try reading a version written in modern English, like the NIV or NLT.

If it does, then I suggest you read, from the New Testament, the book of Galatians, chapter 3, verses 13-14. And then, Romans 10:13, which is also in the New Testament.

You can go online to find a place to read at this website: www.biblegateway.com

If you want to read further, you might look at "Blessing or Curse" by Derek Prince. Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

You are addicted to your negative impression of people.

The only way to free yourself from that addiction is to start a new addiction. Experiment with not feeling hurt, not assuming what other people think about you, and not assuming that what they think about you is hurtful. Then experiment with accepting hurt. This experimentation itself can be very freeing. Become addicted to freedom from addiction.

Do things you would normally never do. If you're good, do something bad. If you're bad, do something good. If you never lie, lie. If you always lie, tell the whole truth to someone. If you're always friendly, suddenly, for no reason, and directed at no particular person, be unfriendly. And accept that it is okay.

This will help.

Answer 7

Their is good people out there. You just havent run into many of them. Dont give up on people. Some build walls to protect themselves but I dont advise you doing that. They say nice guys finish last and maybe thats whats happening to you. You just have to be strong. Try to learn people and figure them out. Try to weed the hurtful ones from the ones that will treat you right and with respect and the way that you expect. Good Luck!

Answer 8

continue to be who you are which sounds like a nice friendly person but keep your guard up and don't get taken advantage of. be there for your friends by offering emotional support. if you always get hurt in the end, be more selective who you pick for friends. and concentrate on those few really good trustworthy friends and offer them more rather than spreading it out over a large group of people.

Answer 9

Treat yourself as you treat others, first. Be careful with your own feelings. Be satisfied by what you give to others. If you need more in a relationship, don't hesitate to ask for it. If you are always giving, then people will see you as an endless well and never even think that you might need something in return.

Answer 10

Hello Frenchi, i think most of people now a days are just want to feel that they are happy without caring abt others. i sometimes also have this problem.
I will be happy if we chat sometime and i think that u r very nice person.
My email is [e-mail]
pls send me email with msn or icq no. and i hope we will be friends

Best Regards
Reikominder

Answer 11

you sound like a really sweet girl , & let me just tell you , the nicer you are , the more you get hurt . it's one thing to be the way you are , but you have to put yourself first , & if someone is being dissrespectfull , or rude , or w/e theyre being , you need to leave it . it's refreshing to have people like you around , & you dont deserve to be hurt all the time , just make sure you always care about yourself the most =)