And step on you like you don't matter to him no more. But he can do whatever he wants and since your trying to work on your marriage. You don't say anything to him about his wrong doings until its too late because now he's point the finger at you with all your faults for a one day mistake.
2007-02-24 06:28:52 · 12 answers · asked by teressahall@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me be more brief he does not abuse me those are just words to explain how I feel
2007-02-24 06:47:45 · update #1
Why do you people think it's abuse unless you guys are telling me this is mental abuse and that's not good for me at all. I wanna make our marriage work because we been through so much over the years but I also have to say I abused him too. Over the years we been together I abused him so bad that he runs away from his own home back to his mother and I am trying to change for the better not the worsest he has changed not completely but he has changed from the person he used to be. Now I'm working on me but it seems like it's not enough for him like he wants me to be a saint over night.
Can a Man tell me why do other Man act this way?
2007-02-24 06:59:00 · update #2
The guilty dog barks first. If he is such an arrogant jerk, why don't you find someone else. Life is too short to be miserable.
2007-02-24 06:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by mspicer0005 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is a marriage not worth saving. If the guy is always going to put you down and point out every little thing you do wrong, why keep putting yourself through that. You deserve respect just like everyone else. And it's seems that he has no respect for you or your feelings. Just ask yourself if you are really happy in this relationship and if you can't honestly say yes then you need to do something about it. I understand you may love him but don't you deserve love also. It's your life you can keep putting up with it or you can do something about it..Either way I wish you the best of luck..
2007-02-24 06:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by over worked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ONLY stay if he somehow promises to change his ways or go to counseling or something along those lines. Of course, if he actually does change and stay that way then stay with him. If he doesn't want to change then I say you should just leave him. I personally wouldn't say anything. I would get some big strong friends AND the police or something to help you get all your stuff so things don't turn ugly. Better to be safe than sorry. I don't know if you're a religious woman or not, but prayer never hurt anyone.
2016-03-28 22:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the mistake. Infidelity in my book is impossible to forgive or forget. My marriage was based on trust and without it there would be no marriage to save. If it is something minor then it is a matter of him not being happy in the marriage to begin with. Maybe he's trying to show you that he has already given up on your marriage and is letting you waste your time until you leave him. It may be that he just doesn't care about you anymore. Move on and start a new life.
2007-02-24 06:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question shouldn't refer to "you" but to "I" as it seems to be an issue you are dealing with, not the majority of married people.
If your marriage isn't working and when you try to get it on track, your husband derails it, then perhaps it's time for you to consider moving on alone. I'm not an advocate of divorce but sometimes we have to admit something is no longer right for us...this life is too short to waste it in a situation that is unhappy and irreparably damaged, when we could be in a different situation and happier.
2007-02-24 06:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married and i'm only a teen so i don't know much about the marriage aspect of it, but to make any relationship work, you need to talk.
tell him that you want him to come home from work early and make him an extra special dinner with candlelight and tell him how you feel. use statements like "i feel..." and not "you're always...." cause that'll just make him feel trapped and angry.
i hope this helps!
2007-02-24 06:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by vanilla angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok , so stop being the door mat, stop doing things for him, go buy things that make u feel better about urself, clothes, getting ur hair done, start actting as if u dont give a crap about him or being a "wife" as far as cooking or cleaning up after him, making sure his laundry is done etc.. let him fend for himself, if he wants to act like a single man that has no concerns for anyones feelings but his own then let him, ur going to go out with ur friends, or even to a family members, ur not going to answer to him, ur just going to do it.. when he sees that ur feeling confident in yourself again, and that ur not "doing" everything for him, and that ur living ur own life (WITHOUT BREACHING YOUR WEDDING VOWS) just going out and doing things u like to do.. with friends, etc, the more he's going to take notice and want to know whats going on, and start worrying about why the sudden change, why arent u cattering to him, why arent u being clingy and worrying about the marriage anymore..etc.. Men like to take advantage of women's emotions by actting like they can do anything they want and u will just sit there and take it, cause well u've done it in the past, let him get away with actting this way, its time to get ur own backbone start being happy again, even if ur crying inside dont let him think anything bothers u, ur just going to enjoy life, and if he wants to be a part of it, he can but, untill he starts actting like a "HUSBAND", your not going to act like his "WIFE" he cant have his cake and eat it too.. so make him remember that ur something worth losing, that u dont "NEED" him to survive you "WANT" him in ur life, but not if he's going to be this way..
He'll take notice after awhile but u have to stick to your guns.. and not give in, or he'll just go back into the same pattern again..
2007-02-24 06:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love this guy and you think the marraige is worth saving, then go for it. give it one last shot.
if it still doesn't work out, then part and start having the life you deserve.
2007-02-24 23:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's as simple as this, MEN ARE ASS HOLES, period, we all know this, it's never going to change, but what are we to do, can't live with them or w/out them there fore we're stuck in putting up with it.
2007-02-24 09:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by D lux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how it will be and if he does not you need to find someone else that will return your affection.
2007-02-24 06:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋