Ive been really stressed out over..?

Question

Ive been really stressed out over the fact that my boyfriend recently had a seizure and i cant sleep and i cry thinking about him having the seizures...ive tried eveything to forget about it but i cant ...i cant even fall asleep without keeping the tv on...i havent gotten sleep in the past three days ....someone pleae give me advice

Answer 1

Well you have to realize that you are creating this problem and you need to adjust your thinking on it. You have control over your physical response to events outside of you. His seizures you can't control, but like you've already been told, seizures are not that big a deal. They are like brain hiccups. Learn how to do deep breathing to relax yourself. You will never make it in life if you allow your emotions to rule you this way!

Answer 2

Those are very stressful. I know. Just breathe for a minute. A lot of people have seizures. They are not a small thing. When people have one, whether it be from a condition or something in their brain misfires, it can be very traumatic for anyone invovled. Try talking to him. Let him know your concerned. Come up with a plan should it happen again. You might want to take a course with the Red Cross so you can help him.

As for your lack of sleep. You won't be very productive or useful if you don't get some sleep. There are a lot of relaxation techniques that you can try. They do work, but only if you let them. Allow yourself to relax. You can be relaxed and concerned at the same time. If you let that concern turn to fear and consume you, well, you already know what will happen.
There are essential oils, music, eye masks, linen sprays... Go to your local health food store too. They have great, all natural ways to allow you to sleep instead of forcing you. There is a MAJOR difference. If this continues, see a doctor. Maybe even a therapist or a hypnotist. You're not crazy, you're scared.

Don't try to forget about it. There is no sense in trying to lull yourself into a false sense of security. But you can take this in stride and learn from it. Think of the positives. He is okay now, right? If he has another one, you may know what to expect.

Answer 3

Knowledge is power. I had a boyfriend that had seizures and I went and learned all about them. He had no family and he had no money or health insurance. I researched until I found him an organization, a doctor and all the information he needed to get him the help he needed. Education and recognizing the signs and going with him to the doctor's office and getting into a support group to tell you all the things that you need to know to deal with the problem.

Answer 4

Seizures are common with many conditions that are not life threatening. Odds are it is probably not a severe problem.

As for you, obviously you need sleep. Without sleep you can't think straight and you will get stressed out about things that you normally wouldn't give a second thought to. Get some sleeping pills from your doctor. Those should knock you out for about 8 hours with no problem. You could probably get them for a few weeks and then ease off when you sort out your problems.

Answer 5

First I would suggest seeing your boyfreind every day to keep your fears under control, seeing him fine we'll take away the pain. Second speak with a docotr ask him about what happened and potential problems. The doctor is bound to re-assure you.

Also try putting some soothing music on like vivaldi and music types that don't inlcude lyrics this will distract you. Maybe try and dream about you and your boyfreind having a good time.

Try planning something for when your boyfreind comes out of hospital and try and practice some more positive things.

Answer 6

Perhaps your boyfriend's health problem made you unsure whether he is someone you want to marry and live with for the rest of your life. And this may be the real reason why you are having so much difficulty dealing with it.

It's not easy to break up with a boyfriend when he hasn't done anything wrong.

I suggest that you give it time and sleep on it. Sleeping often helps in making difficult decisions. That which is not obvious to you now may become obvious after you sleep on it.

Answer 7

CALM DOWN! Are his seizures controlled by medication?? I know seizures are scary...I have dealt with them sometimes 10 times a day with the individuals that I used to take care of. If you are with him when it happens, just help him to the floor and clear everything out of his way. Don't freak out. Some people have magnets in their chest and have to be swiped. Some people are epileptic and are set off by flashing lights...everyone is slightly different, so just ask him what to do if it happens.

Answer 8

More to the point!!! What is your boyfriend doing about this problem? Is he under the care of a physician? Once he is squared away, then start thinking of seeing a doctor ,yourself. Stress and lack of sleep can work havoc on you, sweetie. Don't let that happen. See someone soon and get on the road to good health. I wish both of you the best of health and happiness♥

Answer 9

a seizure is very treatable stop being a drama queen and find out the reason the seizure may have occurred

Answer 10

well, if your bf went to a doctor and got his medication straightened out then there's not much for you to worry about. help him follow the doctors orders and note any changes in his behaviour, etc. to his parents.

you cannot control what causes this, but you can help to control that it doesn't happen. stop trying to be the victim here and thinking it's all about YOU. it's not. YOU need to be there for HIM.