My wife is beautiful. We are on our third kid and I will not (cant now)lol..... have anymore children.
I will never striaght out tell her that she has neglected herself...she knows..... She is still beautiful to me, but stays at home and is always in pajamas....
We are grateful my job allows her to stay at home with our kids, but I would like to see her put on normal people cloths...lol
anyone go through this??
I think that it will get me more excited about sex...
What I am saying is.....I want to get her excited about her sexuality and be able to have a conversation that will spice things up in the bedroom too.
I see women all the time out when I work....who have children and are "out and about" looking very attractive....
My wife has friends who have children just like us and stay at home and get fixed up everyday and look good.
What can I do to help, so our overall situation gets better??
2007-02-24 06:04:53 · 11 answers · asked by scriptseeker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmm hard one, if i were you i would buy her some nice clothes she feels obligated to wear, even if she is just around the house. my friends step mom is like this, she just had her second kid, and she has no sense of style, but once the baby is older she may want to wear nicer clothes. it might be beucuz she is taking care of kids that she doesn't want to get her nicer clothes dirty. buy her clothes, tell her she is beautiful, buy her flowers, something nice that will make her feel more like dolling up
2007-02-24 06:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lets go 2 Candy Mt. Charlie!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking her out shopping, (without the kids) and point out some things that you'd like to see her in. You can bring home a gift for her, some nice piece of clothing like a blouse, and when she tries it on, show her that it excites you; maybe gently (jokingly) say something like "Whooo, it's nice seeing you in clothes so I can take them off you!" If she gets the hint and dresses up for you, do exactly that, start taking them off her, even if you know that you can't do anything right then (because of the kids or timing or whatever) just let her know that you love the fact that she got dressed for you, and that it excites you. It may take some time and patience, but she'll get the hint.
At the same time though, you need to ask yourself are you doing everything you used to do that excited her...maybe she's not as excited as she used to be either, and keep in mind that even after she starts doing it, she may not do it all the time.
Good luck!
2007-02-24 06:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by pookieb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more things you do to help her around the house and with the kids the more time and effort she will put into her appearance. When my husband comes home and plays with the kids or does the dishes or laundry, I find that so damn sexy and I want to jump him right there. Show her affection at times other than when you just want sex, it doesn't have to be anything big. Maybe just a quick squeeze of her hand or an arm around her or even a card or just telling her that you think she is a great mother / wife and you are glad that she is in your life.
2007-02-24 06:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very overwhelming and stressful to be home all day with children. Children constantly want something from you and you have no time for yourself. More than anything your wife probably needs some "me time." Watch the kids and encourage her to go out with her friends, help her more with the children. Schedule weekly dates with her and you arrange the child care. You will see a distinct change. Make her feel like a woman!! Call her during the day to check up on her. And please don't compare her to other wives. It will only make her angry and defensive. Above all tell her that you love her and gently tell her how you feel.
Married 17 years.
2007-02-24 06:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Messaging his wife on Facebook would be the stupidest thing you could EVER do. For one thing, how do you know this man is telling the truth?!? You don't. For another thing, if this man really wanted you, he would never, EVER let six whole months go by without seeing you. And for ANOTHER thing - do you really think this guy has gone 6 months without any sex?!? Girl PLEASE. Don't be naive, and I KNOW you aren't stupid enough to believe what this man is telling you. And why in the world would you want a man who can keep his hands OFF YOU for six whole months?!? And that part about it "not being the right time" for him to be in a relationship - after he pursued you and pursued you, for what, for sex? - I got NEWS for YOU girl - he IS in a relationship - just not with YOU. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER than this player. And that's all he IS, a PLAYER. And don't believe for a minute that he's treating you like s**t because he's just been so HURT by his wife. That's such b.s. - that's what guys say when they don't want to commit to you. What you have on your hands is a commitment-phobic p***y hound. And his wife got SICK and TIRED of it, as would YOU if you were in her shoes - which I do not think for a minute that you will ever be in.
2016-05-24 06:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out without and with the kids. Go over to friends houses and have them come to yours. If she has to leave the house and go meet people for things she will fix herself up. When she does get dressed up let her know that you think she is hot and when the kids go to bed early the two of you will too. Just keep showing lots more interest in her when she is fixed up and arrange to go places she needs too.
2007-02-24 06:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key......talk with her and be honest. Also let her make some suggestions about you too. Best of luck
2007-02-24 06:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she is pretty in your eyes that is all it matter. Don't be a drama queen. You don't have a problem.
2007-02-24 21:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. communication is important
2007-02-24 06:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to "straight out tell her" what you want..
Do it as diplomaticaly as you can but you need to tell her
plain and simple...
2007-02-24 06:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋