my fiance has been divorced for 6 yrs with a 8yr old son(joint custody) who is very active in sports.when we go to these events(2-3 times a week) his exwife expects my fiance to sit with her and then proceeds to chit chat with him for the whole game(she even follows us out to our car)now the problem is she HATES me and does everything she can to make me feel not welcome in what she feels is "her" family.now to my face she's ok but behind my back its awful what she has done to undermind me.we have tryed to sit away from her but this just pissed her off and she came over anyway.i could just stay home but i would like to see the games too.if it was just 1 or twice a month i could just suck it up but its like 2-3 times a week.
2007-02-24 05:54:29 · 3 answers · asked by fghytuju67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd go and be pleasant to her face and find someone or somewhere to vent about it in private. If you're showing up, you're showing your fiance and his son that you care to be a part of their lives. If you're civil to her you're showing them and everyone else watching that you have class. If she's being uncivil to you and you're not retaliating eventually the people watching will get just who is the witch and who is not.
2007-02-24 06:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope your not over reactting.. she is wanting her a family that no longer exsists.. he needs to tell her that they are no longer are together and that the only reason they even have to deal with each other anymore is for the kids sake.. and they do not need to sit next to each other just because they share a child together, they dont live in the same house yet their both parents, right? same same..
He needs to put her in her place even if that means embarrassing her in public... try to tell her nicely.. to back off, but if she insists, then thats when he says "Please stay away from us we are trying to enjoy the game" loud enough for the other parents to hear him but low enough not to cause a scene for his child to see.. they are not a united family anymore and they shouldnt be actting like one.. they are both their to support their son and nothing more, and they can do that from their own seats..
He is disrespecting u by letting this happen, and he's giving into his ex wife by letting her actually believe that she can call the shots and that she's queen bee... Shes trying to prove that this is "HER" family and that u need to back off, and he's allowing her to do so.. he needs to get some balls, and stand up to her and to let her know this isnt going to happen, and if she doesnt back off he will get a restraining order against her.. to keep her from invading his space..
2007-02-24 06:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be very angry. Save yourself the drama. Go once a week and insist that your fiance sit with you. Let your fiance talk to her and tell her that once a week he would prefer to sit with you. Let him deal with her. Don't get caught in the cross fire.
2007-02-24 06:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋