Almost every day I log in and check my husband's calls. most of the time he has talked to someone else, but I never say a word. I just print it out and put it away for future use in divorce court. He knows I have his password, so it's his fault if he gets caught, right???
2007-02-24 05:46:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think anything is wrong with what I do. If he's cheating on me like he's done before, then I need to know in order to protect myself. I should have known this would make me look bad, but most people would jump at the chance to REALLY know if they got the chance and ya'll know it.
2007-02-24 06:04:44 · update #1
If he has done it in the past, then you have that right! It's hard to build that trust once it has happened already. When I caught my wife cheating...hell yeah I logged on to check every call she made! I even hid a caller ID recorder in the house to take down all the incoming calls when I wasn't home. It's truly hard to gain that trust back so I am fully for you on this! Always cover your back just in case, right? Check off the list...see when it takes place...frequencies....length of calls....times it takes place. If you want evidence for the possibility of a divorce....you need good evidence (him cheating once is good ammunition enough).
But...if he is not....then you are going to look like an *** for going through all this extreme. Going to counseling may help if you have less doubts.
Keep me in touch..I would like to know how it turns out.
Good luck
=)
2007-02-24 06:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by indyhype 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-11 11:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, if he has cheated on you in the past and you have no trust in him, which you don't then you need to divorce him now, you say that you keep the records for the divorce hearing, okay then why not just divorce him now, and you should ask him who he is calling, how do you know it is another woman, or that he is having an affair, he might be calling a co worker, or a friend of his. Don't jump to conclusions but if it is another woman and they are together then dump him now, don't wait until later.
2007-02-24 06:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you comprehend the reality already, he's cheating on you. He has no organization as a married guy, conversing to a distinctive female like that. If he won't end, leave him or kick him to the size down. he's extremely disrespecting you. of direction he will say, we are only friends, he will not admit something, cheaters continuously lie. Married adult males don't have females friends like that, on account that's cheating. do not post with it for yet another minute. you do not deserve this abuse. arise for your self, pass consult from the divorce lawyer at present.
2016-10-16 09:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are u planning a divorce? There must be more than u r telling us. Anyway, lets say u do see a womans number, how r u going to know who she is or why he talked to her. Maybe she's his boss or coworker or employee or drycleaner or cousin or just a friend that he has had for a while. U r sick if u think that simple talking to a person of the opposite sex should be frowned upon when u have a gf/bf or wife/husband.
2007-02-24 05:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you checking his phone records? Do you think he's cheating on you? You say you're keeping the records for divorce court? Are you planning on divorcing?
You don't trust him, and you obviously don't think this relationship is going to last, so why are you still with him at all?
To answer your question, I don't see a problem with looking at his calls. If he has nothing to hide, then he won't care. But I think the real question is whether or not you want to be with a person you obviously don't trust?
2007-02-24 05:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Applejack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever cheated? If so I can fully understand why you would wonder. I guess because it was done to me I would be prone to check. I NEVER thought in a million years he would but he did. That was 12 years ago and I will never trust him fully. I still check so if anyone thinks that is being over protective they havn't lived it. Good luck and hope you keep finding nothing.
2007-02-24 05:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Checking your man cell phone calls is not a crime it's call (CAUTION) You may even ask yourself (i don't trust him if i have to check his cell phone). True and but not true. If you have had experiences in the past with him cheating and you forgave him and tried to move on but just want to stay on the safe side GIRL' CHECK IT.
And don't never let him know of it until you need it in court.
Thank You
Randi
2007-02-24 06:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Randi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right. I check my hubby's email because I know he's lied to me about it, and that's how he's met girls in the past. He gave me the password, so, he should know better. I say if he's given you reason to doubt him, it's up to you to make sure you don't get caught in that again. What's that saying? One time shame on him, two times shame on you?
2007-02-24 06:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not OK, any more than it's ok to read someone's postal mail or email.
If you have infidelity issues, you need to communicate with your partner straight up. Stop skulking around behind his back, just because you suspect he's doing it to you. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Talk to him and stop snooping.
2007-02-24 06:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋