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im wonting to be a single mother of three kids,but how do i tell my husband that i wont a divorce any advice?

im wonting to be a single mother of three i have a job i have a place to live but how do i tell my husband that i wont a divorce, im just not happy anymore he does not take care of me anymore in the bedroom and thats what im wonting someone whi can give me a great sex life cause he sure in the hell cant anymore any advice

Answer 1

You question is all about what you want. Not about what is best for your family. So you have a job and a place to live. So does that mean that the kids do not need their father in the house. Wrong. The best gift you can give your children is raising them in a house with 2 parents.

You are seriously going to end a marriage because of lack of sex. That makes you sound so shallow. Even if I wanted to do that I could never walk into court and say that - it is puclic record you know. At some point your children could see those documents and I am sure they would not think highly of you for that.

Have you tried to talk to him about this? Does he even know that there is a problem? Is it medical or mental. Maybe there is a reason. My dad had a problem and he found out he had a brain tumor. Wouldn't you feel bad then. Maybe he is depressed. Are you fighting a lot. If so maybe that is it. Has he gained weight, maybe he is not feeling good about himself, have you gained weight maybe he is not attracted to you as much. Does he have a lot of new stress at work? All couples go in fazes or fest and famine but that does not mean you should divorce. I mean you took an oath for better or worse.

Get some viagara. Get some sex toys. Take a long weekend and do something special together to get things going. Have a few drinks and tie him up for some kinky hot sex. Buy some lingerie and pumps. Do anything but do not get divorced over this.

Answer 2

Talk as calmly as possible, and explain that this is something you have been considering for a long time, that you are just not right together, and although you have tried to make it work, it's not getting any better, it's getting worse. Explain that you have thought about living arrangements and that you will be fighting for custody of the children. He may fight you back on that one, depending on if he even wanted kids in the first place. But if you want a divorce, you need to tell him. He may have suggestions of separation or counseling, you can discuss those options as you wish. Or, you can suggest them and if he is not willing, move on...

Answer 3

I have a friend of mine that is a single Mother of three kids, and believe me, it is NOT easy! Are you sure this is what you want to do? If so, and you've made up your mind, sit him down and tell him. Don't be ugly about it, just "matter of factly". He probably already suspicions it, if your discontent has been going on for awhile. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Explain to him how you are feeling about the marriage. You don't know if he's getting the same vibe from the relationship or not and you need to know where he stands. You can figure out where to go from there. Also he may be willing to allow you and the kids to keep the house and live with him, although switch to seperate rooms and have a marriage to most, but not all the hassle to yourself, you never know.

Answer 5

go to a lawyer have him start it up and go from there.

but maybe you could try to work things out with your husband and go to counseling or something. at least give it a good honest try. you have 3 kids together and being a single mother of one kid much less 3 isnt easy. youll need to get a job and put them in daycare if you dont already, etc.

consider trying to work things out at all costs. you fell in love and married each other for a reason at one time and then had three kids -- that's worth investigating and trying to save.

Answer 6

Talk to him. Tell him what's wrong. See if u can work through it. If not then u shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. U didn't know him well enough to be willing to spend the rest of your life with him (if that was your purpose in getting married). Just talk it out, see where he stands and go from there.

Answer 7

The best way would be to do it in a non-confrontational manner. You may want to have this conversation when the children are gone, so that you can sit down and have a honest talk about what you want and why. Certainly there will be questions on his part so be prepared to answer those. Good luck.

Answer 8

If you can make it on your own with three kids with his child support ( Ihope you will get) Tell him you're not happy as you were when you first married. This is something you need to do and are going to do it and theres nothing he can say or do that will change your mind. Theres no use in trying to make this marriage any better. It' done. Over. Good-bye!

Answer 9

I would write down why you want to be a single mother so then if he gets mad you won't say something that you will regret later. Also write down your plans for him being able to see the children and stuff. It also depends on the reason why you want to become a single mom. I hope that this helps

Answer 10

You need to work this out between you and your mate. There should be extremely strong valid reasons why you would want to do this. Consider not only your own desires, but also what is best for your children. There are 5 lives at stake here.