so my family is middle eastern, so they are pretty traditional. i am almost 18, and i think that i should be allowed to start dating. i have been raised well and i have a good head on my shoulders. i am very intelligent and responsible and careful. so what do you guys think?
2007-02-24 05:40:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Seeing that you have a pretty middle eastern traditional family it's not going to be easy for them to see that you are a mature lady now. I think the ideal age is when you feel it's right and good. I got in my first real relationship when i was 16, and i'm finishing up college and making something of myself. I'm 21 years old and my stepfather would let me date and for a while i didn't care but once i knew i was ready it was hard. I ended up dating a guy that was 5 years older than me and we were together for 3 years. Your parents just need to see and realize that your a little lady now and are well aware of the things that go on with dating. Have you sat down with them to see about dating? maybe even starting small with group dating and people coming over to your house then working from there? well try different things and good luck!
2007-02-25 16:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by **Shan** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a parent yet, and I do not plan on being one for a long time, but I would say 17 or 18. Of course, in my opinion, dating means: going skating, going to the mall, etc., but nowadays it has a more intimate meaning. If you reassure your parents that you guys are going to have fun as friends, and not do any of that "inappropriate stuff", then I am sure they will say yes. If you continue to show your parents that you are a reponsible young lady and that the person you want to date is a gentlemen, your parents will be a bit more comfortable about you guys dating. A good start would be to invite him over for dinner. Keep on reassuring them that you are a good daughter, as well a good person with lots of integrity. Praying also works. Ask God to show your parents that you are ready to date. If they still say no, ask about having a chaperone. My mother, who also came from a strict family, had one until she was 23. And she never complained! Just remember how much your parents love you, and that they want the best for you and your future. They want you to choose a nice guy, as well as have a happy marriage that lasts for an eternity. Look at how people are today. People start dating when they are around 13 or 14 and the divorce rate is at its highest and most likely will continue to increase! So whatever you do, don't tell your parents,"Well, all the other people my age date!," because their response is going to be,"And by the time they are our age they get a divorce!"
2007-02-24 14:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by ItsScriptural 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went on my first date at 15. It was ok, I was always a good kid so they had nothing to worry about. I didn't really date again after that though until I was 16 adn I think that is a good age. My daughter is only 11, but she has a good head on her shoulders and is a good kid. I trust her and we will probably let her date when she is 16.
2007-02-24 13:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Starshine 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think children should be allowed to date when they get their driver's license (age 16). No younger do they really understand what dating is and at 16, I think kids are mature enough to know what they are looking for in a person.
2007-02-24 17:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Squeegee Beckingheim :-) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on your parents. And your maturity. If my daughter was 18, i would let her date for sure as long as she knew right from wrong. I think 18 is too old, you should have started dating before, but thats my opinion. I would prolly let my kid go on 1st date around 15-16 depending on things
2007-02-24 13:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by marriedsoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think a parent should not let anyone under the age of 13 to date. after that i think it depends on the persons maturity level. everyone has a different maturity level so if you allow a 13-year-old to date and they are very immature, then they'll make some immature decisions. so it just depends on the person
2007-02-24 15:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by nikka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An age when your parents think your responsible and mature. My parents say 16 to me and my siblins but my older sister was allowed to date at 15 because my parents thought she was mature enough. At 18 your old enough.
2007-02-24 14:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
18 is the perfect age to date if i should say so myself. I think at 18 your able to drive so why not date? You should know what is best for you and be responsible.
~here2help~
2007-02-24 14:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by here2help_101 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At the age that you feel that she is responsible and trustworthy and intelligent. Preferably around 17/18.
2007-02-24 14:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Ms. Allison♥ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
WE allowed our girls to date 15-16.
2007-02-24 23:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋