Which is more important in a relationship.....being right or being happy??

Question

If you have ever seen the Dr. Phil show, he asks quarreling couples...."Would you rather be right or be happy?"
What if BEING right makes you happy??

to "dan".....calling me a fool was rather unnecessary....it was a rhetorical question!

Answer 1

Being happy is more important. If being right makes you happy, but it causes more of a rift in your relationship, then you need to re-evaluate they way you think. Realizing that being happy is more important than being right comes with maturity.

Answer 2

It's not possible to be right all the time,same applies to being happy too, but if you are truly happy that counts a lot though you don't wannabe happy at the cost of the things that are important for the people close to you.

Sometimes happiness comes from giving away the things that you love most, sometimes it's an agony for the lifetime, but only you can decide what you really want in the relationship. I would say I want me to be happy and I want the person I love to be happy too, but these two things might not coincide too.

If you are really asking this question then I think you will understand what I'm trying to say, though I know these things are so subjective to a specific situation that it's hard to answer on a superficial level. I hope you find your answers in your life.Good luck.

Answer 3

A good relationship is a mix of both. How can you be happy if you are never or seldom right? This is a real important issue because if you are continually wrong, you just might be with the wrong person. Take a look at what is important to you and what is important to your partner. Quarreling is often an indication that you need to go in a different direction and the direction might just be away from each other. If you have to be right all the time, then there is something amiss in yourself.

Answer 4

My ex-girlfriend felt her baked chicken was the greatest thing ever prepared in a kitchen. I had to try hard not to gag on it and tell her she made great chicken.

Right vs Happy.............Happy

If you truly know you're right that should be enough. Save your Ammo for the big stuff. There isn't that much out there that is worth disrupting the peace and tranquility of the house just to be right.

Here are some sample questions were it is better to not be right.

Does this make my butt look big?
Do you like my chicken?
What do you really think about my sister?
Do you think she's all that pretty?

My ex was a lousy driver, lousy cook, her family was direct from the Jerry Springer show, she made crappy life decisions. She made me happy in other ways and I cared enough about her I kept my mouth shut, and we had a happy existence. One day she told me if I didn't quit my job and move to Dallas to be with her family she was leaving me. Then it was more important to be right. She left and I am happier than I would be if I moved to Dallas.

Answer 5

Even in the best marriages, no one(and I repeat no one!) is totally happy all of the time. A good marriage is based on compromise. You are going to be right and wrong at times. It means that you are human. The only person that I ever heard of that was considered perfect could walk on water and he was crucified for everyone else and the mistakes that they made. Be happy if you can find someone that will compromise as much as you will and you will be happy regardless of who is right or wrong more.

Sincerely,

Dr. Richard(and I speak from experience not an eight year degree)

Answer 6

If being right makes u happy then go with it. I don't know how anyone could be happy living a lie anyway. I've never watched dr. phil but if he disagrees then he's an idiot. U should find someone who isn't offended by being disagreed with and who is willing to work with u to find the best thing for the both of u.

Answer 7

The two needs to go hand in hand. Noticing that one of you is right and the other is wrong is the basis of a good relationship. Things needs to be talked over. Anyone can be wrong but all too many will keep going with it knowing that they are wrong. This is not a good practice and it only keep angry people angry. Admit to being wrong and you'll be much more happy in the long run.

Answer 8

BEING HAPPY!!!
If you love someone, sometimes you have to be REALLY REALLY able to let something go, or let them have that point. If it truly makes you happy to see someone else lose then maybe you're not in the right relationship for you.
It's not about letting someone walk all over you. It is about knowing that if they have your love it is for a reason and that sometimes to keep a good thing, every once in a while, you have to eat a bit of s h i t.

Answer 9

If you're happy being right, then you're a really selfish, and immature person. I'd rather be happy. Marriage isn't like sibling rivalry, you can't count points on each other...That's a huge mistake most people make is competing w/their spouses. I'm happy because I choose to be happy, my husband makes me happy too, but it is a personal choice whether you are happy nor not. It is not someone else's responsibility to make you happy.

Answer 10

What's actually more important, is having the emotional maturity to compromise, and work out your issues so that both partners can reach some consensus. It has nothing to do with either being right OR happy.