I want to be there for him but he has been pushing me aside and he tells me that he is saddened but he doesnt know what is causing it. So i cant help him.
But his mood is affecting me now and how I relate to other people and how I feel about myself. He refuses to see a professional and I feel that I am going out of my mind.
What can I say or do to make it better?
2007-02-24 05:36:27 · 10 answers · asked by Cher B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why won't he get help? My husband also suffers from depression - he has for years but we just recently figured it out - he sees a professional and is on medication, it has helped a lot. You might want to have him take one of those depression tests - maybe if he sees on paper that he's depressed he'll be more open to getting help. Did you know that your family doctor can treat for depression - maybe he'd be more comfortable going there rather than a psychiatrist.
http://www.med.nyu.edu/psych/screens/depres.html
2007-02-24 08:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The previous answer from lizpoulet is the best answer. I also have read "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie O'Martian, and it has made such a huge impact on my marriage.
Even if you do not have a relationship with God right now in your life, it doesn't hurt or cost you anything to turn to prayer. My husband lost his business last year & was very depressed. There wasn't anything I could do to help him. He didn't want to talk about it b/c he felt like a failure, and he also refused counseling. I just kept praying for him and let God take care of his pain. Just 7 months later, and he is back to his usual self.
Never underestimate the power of prayer! I will keep both you and your husband in my prayers & I hope that he will soon realize that he has an amazing wife who cares about him, and that alone should be enough to cheer him up :-)
2007-02-24 15:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by taurus_0404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have there been any major life's changes over the last 6 months?
I had this very same experience with my mate a few years back.
Even he wasnt aware of what his problem was. He couldnt figure it out. Since it was driving me up a wall, and I would not continue to live as such, I insisted he move out. Hoping that if he couldnt discover what he wanted, then perhaps he could discover what he did NOT want. After 3 days, he said we had to talk. But I didnt feel that he 'suffered' enough. So set up an appointment for a few days later. It was agreed he'd go to counseling. The issue was quickly resolved.
2007-02-24 13:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him and tell him how his depression is affecting you. If he doesn't know why he's feeling this way, it's best that he see a professional so he can figure out what's wrong. If he loves you, maybe he will do it for you even if he doesn't want to. Maybe you could offer to go with him?
2007-02-24 13:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Applejack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing someone you love suffer so much is a very painful thing to see and go through. My best advice is to bring this to God and pray for your husband. Even tell him you are praying for him. He will feel cared for. I know that when my husband had some alcohol issues, I felt helpless because everything I tried to do to help failed. I had to finally 'surrender' my efforts and bring the problem to God and pray for him. He knew that I was praying for him and he saw how much it was hurting me and our relationship. Hopefully your husband will see that his ailment is affecting you and your marriage. Also, he may start praying for himself as well.
2007-02-24 13:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by lizpoulette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband get on your hands and knees and take this to Jesus in pray.Read the Bible together {Psalm 37} I hope will get your husband release from the evil one.Just remember every bad thing that happens to you on the face of this earth ,we don't have to put up with, GOD gave us dominion over it!
2007-02-24 14:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go into counsling if he doesn't wanna tell you what is wrong with him, its much better to talk with someone you don't know.
2007-02-24 13:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that you can talk to him.now let him know that unless he tells you what is his problem you canot be able to help worse of it that he is becoming your problem.the sooner he identifies his problem the better for you and for him.
doctors don't bite!!!!
let him know
2007-02-24 13:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by mini-haven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find out, let me know...
2007-02-24 13:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Just another opinion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him.
2007-02-24 13:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by *xiPrInCeSs-x* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋