I have an issue. My boyfriends ex of nine years is not letting go. His ex will do drive bys, call in the middle of the night, and sit and wait for him stores that he frequents.
I am trying to be patient. To let things fizzle out on there own. I am also trying to let my boyfriend make an adult decision about what his next move should be. I don't want to be pushy. I don't want to seem overbearing with this problem.
We have talked about it, but I how do I get involved without stepping on his toes or making him do something he doesn't want to?
2007-02-24 05:28:01 · 7 answers · asked by Jude M 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm afraid there is very little that you can do aside from slapping the crap out of the ex-bf. And I don't recommend that.
Your boyfriend must be the one to inform the ex that the behaviour will not be tolerated. If you become involved it could very well backfire on you and the ex is likely counting on that.
2007-02-24 05:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For crying out loud ... this douche bag is still hanging on ... .and your bf is still letting him ... something is wrong with your bf. You can be too nice. Apparently your bf lacks balls to deal with the issue in an adult way. I read that is that he still is emotionally attached to his ex.
You don't say how long you've been together ... but a 9 year relationship can be difficult to compete with.
You may have to push the issue . . . tell him how it is effecting the relationship between you and him. If he values THIS relationship he will tell his ex to get lost.
2007-02-24 13:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww...exs...How I hate them...I had the same problem with my girlfriends ex...she is a crazy butch *****!....lol...I just finally told her that I didnt want her to accept calls anymore..and I let her ex know to that I didnt appreciate her calling my girlfriend and that it had to stop...luckily for me...it has...I guess you can just let him know again...I wish you the best....
Stupid stalker exs...lol...
2007-02-24 13:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing.
let it go it's natural course
without any involvement from you.
things will work out better that way,
for all conccerned.
2007-02-24 14:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him. He can't do anything now, if he does, file a restraining order.
2007-02-24 13:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. I think you need to let your BF handle it. Talk to him but don't nag him about it. Support him but he's going to have to deal with it on his terms. Good luck.
2007-02-24 13:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Things will change, I know that for sure.
2007-02-24 13:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kedar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋