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Question

i was adoppted when i was 5 and now im 26 but it never really botherd me till the past year i feal like im some kind of out cast cause my adopted mom dont talk to me no more after i had my own kids and yes i have them and i tryed asking her about why we was adopted and she dont talk about it i no some of it but how can i get through this i just learned that the scares on my arms was from my real mom from putting ciggs out on me and i really have alot of anger and hate towrds her and ive never felt like this before im scarring my self

Answer 1

Do your self a favor, seek a psychologist that deals with adopted people. You will find you have normal questions and concerns, and you will learn how to resolve them. Best of luck.

Answer 2

Dont worry, my friend. In your case, the worst is certainly over.
dont think too many thoughts of the variety which hurt you.
HELL WITH THE MOM who scarred you. In god's eyes, SHE is the culprit. you, my dear were the victim, so pls dont punish yourself for what she did.
as far as your foster mother is concerned, she brought you up like her own child. pls try to bridge the gap b/w yourselves. TALK to her, effective communication is the only key to relationship problems.
pls go in for yoga/meditation/reiki or other mind relaxing activity.
you can also try helping out sometimes in an abused children's centre. it will give you peace of mind and a sense of purpose in life.
pls try this simple meditation technique:
light a candle infront of the god you believe in. pls say WITH ALL UR HEART, dear god, i forgive everybody, including myself.better still, pls go to www.sahajayoga.org and click on experience it now.
it will help you feel more peaceful and calm.
god be with you...be happy and spread happiness

Answer 3

my mom was adopted when she was like 2, and she is 38, with 2 kids, a husband, and her adoptive mother still alive. my mom doesn't know who the hell her adoptive mother is and she is fine.
well, to be honest you answered your own question, she is jealous that you are a good mom, you kept your kids and you are their hero, i hope, she gave you up, she didn't want to have anything to do with you, and now that she sees you are a good mother she is jealous she couldn't be the mom you are.

find a psychologist in case this didn't help.

Answer 4

You just answered your own question !
Your adopted mom is jealous of how well you have grown to
be a responsible young lady, with kids as beautiful as you.
Don't allow her to run your life !
Put your unreal mom out of your life, and show the world what
Michelle is all about !
Show everybody, your kids have a wonderful mom, and knows
what she wants out of life ! "LUCKY KIDS"

Answer 5

No you are not scarring yourself. I am adopted. My parents would not talk about it when i got older and I would ask. yes, i to hated my folks if i thought i had some maybe. but then again I was told i was in orphanage. well later in life i found out i wasn't alone but had family mom and dad after digging and digging that i was adopted by my real great uncle and aunt. yep and they wouldnt tell me nothing actually they really didn't know much. i was given to them by my grandma and she had me right after i was born. my dad could not take care of my sisters and me so he gave me to my grandma. she was supppose to take care of me but couldn't, she had 4 kids of her own plus she(she also had cancer 3 times) was helping with my two sisters who were 1 and 3. i was born on the one year olds birthday. so my aunt and uncle took me. well anyhow i havefoudn things out and finally got ahold of my sister which i was writing to my grandmother i thought and i was. i picked the one still living and hit it right she didn't write but she was living with my oldest sister. anyhow i hated my real parents or whom ever i thought had me. i hated them and thought i wouldnt' never have nothing to do with them well that is dumb. you don't know what really happened. your mom could have been on drugs or drinking or she could have been married and left her hubby. i mean there are so many things and you why should you hate someone you dont' know? i mean there are so manyt hings you could have sibblings out there also? or you could be alone and not have mom marrired? anyhow which ever case you had it would be nice to find out before it all disappears and if you know your real name at birth you can write to the health department at the state captial ofyour state and get your real birthcertificate and iw ill have father and momther on it. then go from there and tryi and get info out. you parents feelt hey are your parents and that is that i am not sure when you were born but i was born in the 40's and that is how most felt then and now and they dont' change in like my adopted parents didn't know much other then i had siblings and they didnt' know what borther5 sister or what. so you see there are so many things you may think they know all the detials but hey, for your health and stuff you need the information. i got tot talk to my real dad and just wanted to hear his voice and see how he sounded. my real mom died in 91 and i had no idea she was live either but she was hateful and mean i am sure but iwoudlnt' have callee hr mom any more then my real dad and not because i hate them i didn't know them and they didnt' raise me. just find out before you can't find out something and look them up her up. it won't be bad no way its good for information and family tree and find out if you had relative sand stuf f i am big on family and geneology. take it and run and quit hating. man that is stupid. my email is [e-mail] if you want to writ eme. suzy