i have a friend who recently said something interesting to me out of the blue. This is a friend who talks to me about her problems &what is wrong with her relationship. Her first problem is that everytime her boyfriend doesnt say i love you or kiss her back she asks if hes mad at her or whats wrong. i have told her many times if she keeps her insecure ways going he's going to dump her..& then she imed me out of the blue the other day with this:
>i think im better than everyone else and when i fail to see that i get upset. when things arent exactly how i want them to be it bothers me because i believe i deserve better than that.
>i enjoy helping people and being a good person bcuz i know it makes me better than everyone else
>everyone who doesn't see things my way is wrong
(all said in an IM conversation)
does anyone know what is wrong with her?are there any pyschlogical problems she could have and what can i do to help her? she already seen a therapist about her self esteem issues
2007-02-24 04:50:24 · 5 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds like she is extremely insecure with herself, family, friends, and her partner. Even though she is claiming to be "better" than everyone around her, that shows that she has very low self esteem.
She needs to continue to see her therapist. Hopefully she will see that we (including her) all have faults....and no one is perfect.
2007-02-24 04:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That "I'm better than everyone else" thing is a self-defense mechanism against her intense insecurity. She's wallowing so much in her own self-pity that she doesn't realize that she could actually hurt your feelings b/c you are part of the "everyone else." She's probably put all of her eggs in one basket (is she especially good at something), and draws her bloated ego from that. When stepping outside of that world, she expects the same ego-stroking, but doesn't get it, and thinks it's the world's fault. She's alienating you, and I think you should call her on it.
2007-02-24 12:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Me Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's living in a fantasy world. She thinks the world should revolve around her and when it doesn't she overinflates her ego. Thinking that you are better than everybody else is an insecurity problem. She thinks she needs a reason to feel better than everybody else or she would be like everybody else. Who wants to be that, in her own mind. She feels she should stand out in a crowd in a room and to do that, she has to think that she's better.
2007-02-24 15:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by letgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHe could be going through a tough time right now. Give her some space and let her talk to you when she is ready to. I don't mean be mean to her, but talk to her once in a while, and avoid conversations about her boyfriend. Let her talk to you about him if she really wants help and advice. She just needs some space for alittle while.
2007-02-24 12:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by emocappuccino44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend has self esteem issues, but I don't think anything's wrong with her. just try to be there for her and help her through som tough times. It will improve your friendship and she might open up to you more about whats going on.
2007-02-24 12:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋