My best friend: Brittany
Best friends boyfriend: Steven
me steven and brittany all work together. i heard from stevens best friend that he thought brittany was cute so i told her. they then starting to hook up quickly thereafter. I talked to steven everyday for like an hour or even hours a night basicalyl talking about brittany and just everything. we became good friends i think, this was like 3-4 weeks ago. then suddenly the first week of february, brittany and steven became an official couple, and steven totally stopped talking to me. now, 3 weeks later, he completely hates me and cant be in the same room as me. he makes brittany cry multiple times a day over being friends with me, and got brittanys mom to hate me even more (bc we kinda had problems before steven came into the picture). steven is completely possessive over her and gets jealous for no reason.
2007-02-24 04:48:55 · 15 answers · asked by confused and bruised 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont wanna be a bad friend by telling her to dump him but its ridiculous. hes trying to break up our friendship and she is torn on what to do. am i a ***** for telling her to dump him? he doesnt treat her right, but i feel like im not being supportive if i tell her to dump him. she says hes nice to her sometimes but hes really insecure and possessive and jealous and i think its basically emotional abuse.
2007-02-24 04:50:00 · update #1
perhaps you should talk to your friend ask her if she really thinks this guy is good for her and if she is comfortable in this relationship, also try asking her if she knows why her bf hates u. if she wants to stay in this relationship just tell her how u feel about this and stay away but let her know that not because ur staying away it means that ur friendship is over it's just that you want her to be happy and that ur always going to be there for her.
after a while she is gonna open her eyes and she is gonna brake up with him.
2007-03-02 10:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by dhot_angel2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just be there for Brittney when she needs you. It was her decision to get involved with Steven so it should be her decision to break it off with him. If she allows your friendship to subside because of him you should just explain to her that the two of you have been friends much longer then she has been involved with Steven and that if she can let a close friendship end over a man that she has only known for a month then she is not the person/friend that you thought she was.
I wish you the best.
Good Luck
And
God Bless!
2007-03-02 03:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her dump him, but if she'd rather have a best friend over a boyfriend. She'd do it herself.
Just tell her that you're not sticking around to be treated like sh*t. And that you don't like the drama he's causing between you guys.
He's causing more problems than he's worth. Your friends should always come before your boyfriend.
And if he's making her cry multiple times a day, than why is she still dating him? Does she enjoy being hurt.
You need to tell her everything you're feeling, trust me. She'll appreciate it afterwards. The truth hurts, but it'll feel a whole lot better when she knows what you did was right.
2007-02-24 04:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally right in thinking he's a jerk n deserves to be dumped. No guy's worth crying over. And if he's making her cry, he isn't a nice guy. Fullstop. I had a goodfriend with a bf who made her cry daily too. It is just plain emotional abuse, and when he eventually dumped her, I was so happy to be her shoulder to cry on. She was finally getting her happiness back.
It's not going to be easy to advise your friend to dump the guy though, because in your case, your friend could also take it as it's a battle between you and him. So on one side, he wants her to dump you, and on the other, u want her to dump him.
You seem to really care for her, so be her shoulder to cry on and take care of her while she struggles. Perhaps you could find some reading materials about how good men should treat their women, and show it to her, to let her know he's really treating her all wrong. Hopefully, she'll come to her sense soon enough, and pick the right choice. Meanwhile you can only pray and wait.
2007-02-24 05:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Freelove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, wow i can't believe i read all that. second from what i read he's lied and messed with your heart too many times, just move on. trust me i was with a guy who constantly lied to me and made me feel like sh!t, we broke up last october, i didn't get over him until this past may, do you realize how stupid i was! he didn't want me and i was crying over him like every night. it's not worth it, he's not worth it, none of those people are worth it. there are reasons why the people in your past don't make it to your future and there's a reason why none of them are in your life anymore. forget about them, move on. join a group or sport or something and meet new people, make new friends. even spend more time with your family, trust me they really help you feel better when you're down or heart broken. this guy really isn't worth your time and neither are these backstabbing b!tches. i understand it's going to hurt for a while but try and move on.
2016-05-24 06:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them both alone. Dont call them and at work, only say what you have to. If they want to be your friend they will. If Brittney misses you and is smart, she will tell Steven where to go and your relationship should be fine. Ignore Steven. Dont waste your emotions on him. You are the better person. Brittney will do the same when she sees that hes a jerk.
2007-03-04 03:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brittany's got a problem of self worth. You can't solve it. She has to or she'll have to suffer the rest of her life. Your intervention won't help. I'd say you need to develop new friends, without any dramatic cut off of your girlfriend. If she breaks up with this guy, you can possibly help her realize she needs to strengthen her self image. In any case, don't make her problem worse by making it your problem.
2007-03-04 03:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is way scary. Emotional abuse can lead to physical abuse. It can also be just as bad mentaly. You've got to get your friend away from him before she gets hurt. If you don't then things can get really serious. She may be mad for a while, but if you can, try to talk to her mom and explain to her how he is treating her. Her mom may not like you, but she'll respect you for trying to help in explaining that her daughter's boyfriend is abusive. This is very important. Emotional abuse is abuse. Not just words, it can really hurt. I know.
2007-03-02 13:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this boy needs to be popped in the mouth, HARD. But, seeing as if you did that you might get in trouble, I would reccomend that you tell her that her boyfriend is out of line. State that you don't want to hurt her, but he is doing that to her himself. Make sure you let het know, that as long as he is around her, that you will not be. Make it clear, without directly stating it, that you are sorry but you can not be around her boyfriend. And somehow, even if you have to write a note, tell her boyfriend that he shouldn't hurt her this way and that he has no right to.
2007-03-04 04:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Leahhh♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your best friend now has to make choice between you and her boyfriend.it's going to be really tough for her so be next to her when she is making her decision.and even if she chooses her boyfriend,do not be dejected.instead respect her decision and be satisfied as whatever decision brittany takes will surely make her happy
2007-03-01 21:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋