How do I get them to say yes??

Question

Well I have a younger friend who is turning 12 this year. She is no longer allowed to have birthday parties because her parents think she is too old to do that. She feels really sad because all of her friends can have parties and she can't. As her friend/sister what do I tell her? Does she make mom and do let her?

Answer 1

I think her parents might be looking at her friends and realizing that they are not the same group the the parents knew in years past. They may think that more is expected now. This can add up to a considerable expense. She could ask her parents if she and her friends can just get together and do something on her birthday - doesn't have to be anything really special, just something they can do together like all go to the movies (and pay their own ways.... maybe her parents would volunteer at that point to buy the tickets, but if not, that's OK too.) You can't force parents to foot the bill for things that end up being costly. They are already probably buying your friend a gift for her birthday and you don't know what that costs!

Answer 2

Your friend's parents may think she is too old for it, they may not be able to afford to do it right now and not want to (or know how to) tell her or they may be concerned about her getting older and having boys there and some parents are just like that. I don't know that you can make them change their minds.

If my daughter asked me this question I would suggest having her friend spend the night over here and we would throw her a small surprise party. Depending on who my daughter thought her friend would like to have at the party and how many people it would be, we could either have the party a little earlier with a few more people or a few less people but have them all sleep over. It doesn't have to cost much to do, I think just the thought and the effort would mean the world to your friend.

Answer 3

I know how she feels i haven't have had a party since 4th grade. And i'm in 8th grade now. O have one of her friends or you give her a suprise party!!!! that would be fun. So someone is having a party without her knowing so TECHNICALLY it isn't her birthday party a friends does it for her!

Answer 4

Maybe you and some mutual friends can kind of throw her a little suprise party. That's what I had done with one of my friends when I was that age. Basically like a sleepover party but make it about her. She'll really appreciate that!

Answer 5

Ask for something different - like "mom, may I go ice-skating with some friends for my birthday?" or ask for a slumber party with about 3-4 girls (that's what I did after I turned 13).

Answer 6

Thats sad. My mom wants me to have b-day parties even though I think I am too old.

Answer 7

tell her that there are many unfortunate children in this world who have never celebrated their birthdays before, let alone knowing if they have one. hopefully shell understand. :D and there are many other things other than having a party to celebrate birthday, like eating out, sleepover, just doing crazy things, etc

Answer 8

she should have birthday parties at this age
use some persuasion tips like don't you want to see a smile on her face or how her friends have birthday parties.

Answer 9

you and another friend should throw her a surprise party at your friend's house. how can a mother say no if her best friends want to throw her a party?

Answer 10

You tell you that your sorry about that and it really sucks. But then on her birthday you surprise her and have a party for her at your house. She'll love it.