need help with my mairrage?

Question

i have been with him for 8 years and we have 3 kids been mairred for almost 2 but i dont feal the same anymore i feal like he dosent want to be with me cause its like i try to be romantic and he pushes me away i dont no if its the age im 26 hes 39 but its like we dont connect anymore i feal like im the cook and the mom and the door mate for him to wipe his feet on but i try to leave and something pulls me back what do i need to do i love him with all mt soul but i have gotten whare i dont like him at all i am confussed and all that

Answer 1

It is very easy to love someone and not like them anymore~
Work on this girl if you if you want to turn it around~
Communicate with him about your feeling and get a picture of his feelings. Listen, really listen.!! Avoid argument.~ In your talk. Ask him how he's feeling. He may be under a lot of pressure.

Do protect the children from unhappiness. They don't need these memories in their little futures.

You can work this out together, you can't just threaten to walk away, that's not right and that is just another log on the fire. Be sweet, kind, thoughtful, take inventory of yourself, of everything, be open minded. What can I do to better this situation. If I was he ,would I want to make love to me ?? I mean all of this works both ways. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right.
Please don't walk away without giving your marriage its best shot.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like you have already make the decission to leave, a bad situation. Been there done that! Then, once it did finally happen I had to just annoy those feelin to return to what I knew was a bad situation. (married for 12yrs., the first 5 was wonderful while I in the service. Than, the last 7 were pure he!!) If, your mind is made up on the route you wanna take. Do it and don't look back! Stop second guessin yourself if, your ready to call it quites.

Answer 3

Well the age difference may be playing a role in it. His idea of fun and excitement will be alot different than yours now, but maybe you need to pour your soul out to him and tell him that how you are being treated makes you feel the way you described in your question. Ask him what he thinks has changed and what is lacking, what is it that he is looking for and tell him what you are needing. If he doesn't seem to care, then maybe you should look at what other alternatives you have.

Answer 4

COMMUNICATION, IS THE BIGGEST KEY TO ANYTHING! Does he know that you feel this way? Always keep the lines of communication open. The age is a gap, but that is your husband. I don't suggest you leave, because that is not what you truely want to do. If all else fails, try marriage counseling, it can't hurt anything. In the mean time you need to bulid up your confidence, and self-esteem. Do domething to make yourelf feel pretty again, because as Mothers we think of our husbands and children and not ourselves enough. Be Blessed!

Answer 5

I would suggest asking him how he really feels about your relationship and if he has issues and then tell him your. Tell him how you really feel. If you all can work it out, that is wonderful. If not it wasn't meant to be. You can not stay married to someone who doesn't treat you right and that you don't like! If you can not work it out it will be better in the long run for your children if you separate and each of you are happier in your lives.

Answer 6

if you really feel this way it is probably time to move on. some men will push you away until you leave cause they are afraid of saying n e thing cause they don't want to hurt you.

Answer 7

well hate to tell you this, but nothing will ever get accomplished in your relationship if there is no communication. you have to talk to him about it and if he doesn't want to listen then maybe you should separate for a while. he'll realize what he's got when its gone!

Answer 8

You need to regain control of the situation. He knows you love him and won't leave him, so why should he change?

Find your spine and whip this situation in to shape.